Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
General Discussions
The Watercooler
I need to vent about brother in law.
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="donna723" data-source="post: 446034" data-attributes="member: 1883"><p>For one thing, I think it's extremely weird and tacky to turn a post-funeral reception into a fancy catered country club social event, complete with booze! I have never heard of anyone doing that! If brother in law wants to turn it into an expensive event to impress his friends, fine, but he should not expect others to help him pay for it. I could see having simple food and a modest amount of alcohol for friends and family if it was being held at a family member's home, but to me, turning it into a lavish social event is for HIS benefit. The purpose of these events is supposed to be to gather together to pay your respects to the family and provide what comfort you can, and this seems to be something else entirely.</p><p></p><p>One of my cousins had been married to her husband for 45 years - he was the family jokester, a real character, and everybody loved him dearly. About two weeks after he died, they held a memorial service for him at their church followed by an informal dinner in the church reception hall for family, friends, neighbors and former co-workers. Everyone brought covered dishes, etc. Didn't cost my cousin a dime! They spent the whole afternoon telling funny stories about him, laughing and crying and laughing and crying, then everyone helped to clean up before they went home. It was very personal and showed deep respect and love for him, and to me, this is what it's supposed to be... not some big expensive social affair to impress people.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="donna723, post: 446034, member: 1883"] For one thing, I think it's extremely weird and tacky to turn a post-funeral reception into a fancy catered country club social event, complete with booze! I have never heard of anyone doing that! If brother in law wants to turn it into an expensive event to impress his friends, fine, but he should not expect others to help him pay for it. I could see having simple food and a modest amount of alcohol for friends and family if it was being held at a family member's home, but to me, turning it into a lavish social event is for HIS benefit. The purpose of these events is supposed to be to gather together to pay your respects to the family and provide what comfort you can, and this seems to be something else entirely. One of my cousins had been married to her husband for 45 years - he was the family jokester, a real character, and everybody loved him dearly. About two weeks after he died, they held a memorial service for him at their church followed by an informal dinner in the church reception hall for family, friends, neighbors and former co-workers. Everyone brought covered dishes, etc. Didn't cost my cousin a dime! They spent the whole afternoon telling funny stories about him, laughing and crying and laughing and crying, then everyone helped to clean up before they went home. It was very personal and showed deep respect and love for him, and to me, this is what it's supposed to be... not some big expensive social affair to impress people. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
General Discussions
The Watercooler
I need to vent about brother in law.
Top