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<blockquote data-quote="Iamwipedouttoo" data-source="post: 301198" data-attributes="member: 7829"><p>In our state once you turn 18 you can get your license on your own.</p><p> </p><p>She has wanted to drive since she's turned 16 and friends started to get their licenses.</p><p> </p><p>We are concerned with her driving because there is a very real possibility of her getting into an accident because she doesn't seem to get just how large of a responsibility it is (therapist said people with ADHD were more likely to get into car accidents in general). My car, the car she does/will drive, is paid for, 55K miles on it and I like it and need it. We do not want another car payment. Our solution was to buy her a reasonable first car that we could deal with a fender bender caused by her but she blew that. My husband and I also have a really big problem paying an additional $140 a month for car insurance for a child that treats us like crud, too!</p><p> </p><p>As far as me - I had hoped she'd be driving because I see how it is affecting her independance and peer relationships - it took until May of this year to realize that her not driving is an embarrassment and a hassle. Even when the car dangled as a reward didn't work, we had hoped that the embarrassment and hassle would get her to try to do what she needs to do to get driving.</p><p> </p><p>I guess I need to get over worrying about her driving since her actions caused the situation and her anger issues are intefering with the process she needs to go through to get the training she needs.</p><p> </p><p>She just got a disgnosis of ADHD last month so her not being able to follow through on long term tasks now explains a lot, not only with driving, but a lot of things. I guess I'll just have to figure out how to work within a new set of ideas. Whatever those may be...</p><p> </p><p>Why doesn't she see that we are being more than reasonable? I'm at a complete loss. I just don't get it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Iamwipedouttoo, post: 301198, member: 7829"] In our state once you turn 18 you can get your license on your own. She has wanted to drive since she's turned 16 and friends started to get their licenses. We are concerned with her driving because there is a very real possibility of her getting into an accident because she doesn't seem to get just how large of a responsibility it is (therapist said people with ADHD were more likely to get into car accidents in general). My car, the car she does/will drive, is paid for, 55K miles on it and I like it and need it. We do not want another car payment. Our solution was to buy her a reasonable first car that we could deal with a fender bender caused by her but she blew that. My husband and I also have a really big problem paying an additional $140 a month for car insurance for a child that treats us like crud, too! As far as me - I had hoped she'd be driving because I see how it is affecting her independance and peer relationships - it took until May of this year to realize that her not driving is an embarrassment and a hassle. Even when the car dangled as a reward didn't work, we had hoped that the embarrassment and hassle would get her to try to do what she needs to do to get driving. I guess I need to get over worrying about her driving since her actions caused the situation and her anger issues are intefering with the process she needs to go through to get the training she needs. She just got a disgnosis of ADHD last month so her not being able to follow through on long term tasks now explains a lot, not only with driving, but a lot of things. I guess I'll just have to figure out how to work within a new set of ideas. Whatever those may be... Why doesn't she see that we are being more than reasonable? I'm at a complete loss. I just don't get it. [/QUOTE]
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