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<blockquote data-quote="DazedandConfused" data-source="post: 301387" data-attributes="member: 831"><p>Also another one coming in late. Daughter got her license about a month and half ago. She didn't get her permit until she was 17 1/2 and she just turned 18 a few days ago. At 16, there was just no way she had the judgement and maturity to drive a car. I simply told her, "There's no way you're driving my car". </p><p> </p><p>I did nothing to help her get her license either. She had to do all of the footwork. </p><p> </p><p>(When I was 16, I had already taken Driver's Ed and Training and had my permit. My Dad picked me up from school on my 16th birthday to take my driving test. I passed and got my license.)</p><p> </p><p>When she would drive, she had better not argue with me, or that will be the end of her driving. </p><p> </p><p>Here's something I will offer you that I have learned from raising two difficult children teens. </p><p> </p><p>*<em><strong>When they want something, there is <u>NO EXPLANATION </u>you can offer that will satisfy them as to why they should not have it</strong></em>*</p><p> </p><p>So, I just don't explain it anymore. Son, who is 13, thinks I should just let him walk to a friend's, who lives a mile away, at 11:30 at night! Of course, he wants to know, WHY, WHY, WHY, WHY NOT?? Nothing I tell him makes a difference. It's just back and forth arguing. So, now, it's just "no" from me and I ignore his blathering and tantrums. </p><p> </p><p>Back to the driving. Daughter worked all summer to save for a car. I'm proud of her because she saved quite a bit and worked very hard. She has gained a bit of much needed maturity. I even allowed her to drive my car to work. However, we had to put her on our insurance, and the amount the insurance went up, she paid for. Like KTMom91, as long as she goes to school, passes her classes, and works part time, she can use my car until she saves enough to buy her own.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DazedandConfused, post: 301387, member: 831"] Also another one coming in late. Daughter got her license about a month and half ago. She didn't get her permit until she was 17 1/2 and she just turned 18 a few days ago. At 16, there was just no way she had the judgement and maturity to drive a car. I simply told her, "There's no way you're driving my car". I did nothing to help her get her license either. She had to do all of the footwork. (When I was 16, I had already taken Driver's Ed and Training and had my permit. My Dad picked me up from school on my 16th birthday to take my driving test. I passed and got my license.) When she would drive, she had better not argue with me, or that will be the end of her driving. Here's something I will offer you that I have learned from raising two difficult children teens. *[I][B]When they want something, there is [U]NO EXPLANATION [/U]you can offer that will satisfy them as to why they should not have it[/B][/I]* So, I just don't explain it anymore. Son, who is 13, thinks I should just let him walk to a friend's, who lives a mile away, at 11:30 at night! Of course, he wants to know, WHY, WHY, WHY, WHY NOT?? Nothing I tell him makes a difference. It's just back and forth arguing. So, now, it's just "no" from me and I ignore his blathering and tantrums. Back to the driving. Daughter worked all summer to save for a car. I'm proud of her because she saved quite a bit and worked very hard. She has gained a bit of much needed maturity. I even allowed her to drive my car to work. However, we had to put her on our insurance, and the amount the insurance went up, she paid for. Like KTMom91, as long as she goes to school, passes her classes, and works part time, she can use my car until she saves enough to buy her own. [/QUOTE]
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