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<blockquote data-quote="jbrain" data-source="post: 264823" data-attributes="member: 3450"><p>Hi KJS,</p><p>one thing to keep in mind--most teenage boys would die of embarrassment if their mom came up and hugged them. My easy child son told me a bunch of rules one time when I was going to watch him in an intramural basketball game: "Do not yell if I make a shot, do not wave to me, do not talk to me." In other words, act as if I did not know him. I didn't take it personally, I actually thought it was funny, and I "obeyed" his rules.</p><p></p><p>He is 24 now, tells me he loves me, will hug me (well, he lives 3000 miles away but when I do see him he does) etc. He is very respectful and affectionate, has been since he was about 21.</p><p></p><p>Neither of your sons is going to want to spend time with you if you are too needy and clingy. They really need to see that you are not depending on them for your happiness and well being. I imagine difficult child feels suffocated by your love and he is at an age when he needs to be asserting independence. Don't worry, he will come back to you and he will come back quicker if you let him go.</p><p></p><p>So, congrats on "quitting"! Hope you really do follow through.</p><p></p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="jbrain, post: 264823, member: 3450"] Hi KJS, one thing to keep in mind--most teenage boys would die of embarrassment if their mom came up and hugged them. My easy child son told me a bunch of rules one time when I was going to watch him in an intramural basketball game: "Do not yell if I make a shot, do not wave to me, do not talk to me." In other words, act as if I did not know him. I didn't take it personally, I actually thought it was funny, and I "obeyed" his rules. He is 24 now, tells me he loves me, will hug me (well, he lives 3000 miles away but when I do see him he does) etc. He is very respectful and affectionate, has been since he was about 21. Neither of your sons is going to want to spend time with you if you are too needy and clingy. They really need to see that you are not depending on them for your happiness and well being. I imagine difficult child feels suffocated by your love and he is at an age when he needs to be asserting independence. Don't worry, he will come back to you and he will come back quicker if you let him go. So, congrats on "quitting"! Hope you really do follow through. Jane [/QUOTE]
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