I am just at a loss. Is it the "teen years" kicking in or is it just him. Yesterday I was visiting a neighbor at 1:30pm. difficult child gets up, walks over in his pajamas and asks to sleep at a friends. I told him we'll talk about it. He started yelling. The previous night he was at this kids house and one of their friends picked them up and they were riding all over town. I wanted to talk to him about that, but he started yelling. He also texted all his friends on Tuesday and told them how much he hates me and he can't stand living here. Some replied and said he can live there. difficult child goes off saying neighbor boy had 6 sleep overs so far and he only had one and it's not fair. It is HIS spring break and he should be able to do what he wants. Cause it is HIS break. I asked difficult child to talk to me. I asked about riding in a car. That I want to know and he didn't tell me. I told him I don't like that. Against the law for 5 kids in the car with a new driver. And inexperienced. I told him if he sleeps at friends I may have to check on him to be sure he isn't riding around. Now I am a Stalker. He hates me. Nobody will come to our house because of me. on and on and on. He went on and on and had me crying again. I went out and did yard work and cried. husband got home and asked what was going on. I told him I want nothing to do with difficult child anymore. HE will make all the decisions. If difficult child wants to go somewhere he can text him. I don't want anything to do with him. I quit. difficult child can hate him. I am tired of always being the bad guy. (difficult child heard this...he is now happy as can be) Dad lets him do anything. Dad believes everything he says. I told dad that difficult child lies, and now he can lie to him. I can't take the mean things he says to me. The tone he uses, the disrespect. I quit. So as I am taking down the curtains, they leave. difficult child is sleeping at a friends. I don't know who he is or where he lives. I only asked how he was getting home. (New windows today) husband said he is calling him later and will tell me. Well, husband didn't mention a word and I didn't ask. So for all I know difficult child won't be coming home today at all. I am worried sick that difficult child will be riding in a car with kids that are high. difficult child is scared of pills and afraid people will die when they take them, or drink. But he says you can't get addicted to Pot. Or Die. My heart is broken and I am so sad. What has happened? I can't even be in the same room with difficult child and he says mean things to me. I try to be cheery and fake that I am happy, until he starts in on me. Then I cry. Guess he wins then cause he keeps it up and could care less that I am hurting. I told husband, he is selfish and all he cares about is himself. I could fall over on the floor and die, and he wouldn't care. As long as Alex gets to do what Alex wants. I told husband that not only is he making the decisions, he is now going to also give him chores to do. And when he lies and doesn't do them...he better deal with it. The way it is, I asked husband where he took difficult child last night. He took him to the Lake. A group of kids were there and cooking out. I was worried they would go on the peir and jump. That is what they do in the summer. They don't realize it is 30 degrees out and Lake Michigan is SO cold and rough waters. The kids had a fire on the beach (illegal), and god knows what else. husband just sees him as this 2 year old boy. He believes everything he says, never questions anything. And never said a word to difficult child yesterday. When he came home from work he saw me crying. I told him what happened and he never said a single word to difficult child. difficult child never said good bye. And the last thing he heard me say was I don't want anything to do with him. husband and I were outside, but he could hear. I laid awake last night worrying that is something were to happen...that is the last thing he heard. I tell him I love him, and I am trying to be a responsible parent. Checking up on him is not stalking him. I would not have to check on him if he didn't lie to me. About everything. I quit. I quit everything. Being a mother, wife...I just quit.