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<blockquote data-quote="PTSDmama" data-source="post: 587636" data-attributes="member: 16002"><p>JKF - big hugs to you. i really hope your difficult child finds his way back. i can relate to a lot of what you wrote and all i can say is, you're not alone. so many of us have children who rip our hearts out.</p><p></p><p>i meet people all the time - good people, professional people, nice people, people i trust with my health and my life - who tell me about their difficult children. it's a pain that never goes away - i see it in their eyes and hear it in their words - but they have come to terms with it because they have to. you and i will too, because we have to.</p><p></p><p>scent of cedar - a few things you said:</p><p></p><p>"<strong>I don't know why they seem to want to hurt us JKF. But I do know they choose their words as skillfully as a surgeon wielding a scalpel.</strong>" oh my god, yes. no one knows just the right words to cut to my core like my difficult child. i always have to remember to separate myself from her surgically delievered verbal and emotional abuse and not take it to heart. i wouldn't be able to breathe if i didn't.</p><p></p><p>and:</p><p></p><p>"<strong>Maybe we need to remember that, if we're doing it right, none of our interactions with our difficult children while they are self-destructing are going to go well.</strong>" i needed this today, thank you. i sent my difficult child an e-mail yesterday. i told her happy passover and happy easter, and that i love her and miss her. it was that simple. and i got back the surgeon's scalpel. i know my difficult child needs help. i know she can only maintain herself this way for so long before something in her gives, for better or worse. i am trying to not take it all personally and you're right - she is self-destructing and our interactions aren't going to go well.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="PTSDmama, post: 587636, member: 16002"] JKF - big hugs to you. i really hope your difficult child finds his way back. i can relate to a lot of what you wrote and all i can say is, you're not alone. so many of us have children who rip our hearts out. i meet people all the time - good people, professional people, nice people, people i trust with my health and my life - who tell me about their difficult children. it's a pain that never goes away - i see it in their eyes and hear it in their words - but they have come to terms with it because they have to. you and i will too, because we have to. scent of cedar - a few things you said: "[B]I don't know why they seem to want to hurt us JKF. But I do know they choose their words as skillfully as a surgeon wielding a scalpel.[/B]" oh my god, yes. no one knows just the right words to cut to my core like my difficult child. i always have to remember to separate myself from her surgically delievered verbal and emotional abuse and not take it to heart. i wouldn't be able to breathe if i didn't. and: "[B]Maybe we need to remember that, if we're doing it right, none of our interactions with our difficult children while they are self-destructing are going to go well.[/B]" i needed this today, thank you. i sent my difficult child an e-mail yesterday. i told her happy passover and happy easter, and that i love her and miss her. it was that simple. and i got back the surgeon's scalpel. i know my difficult child needs help. i know she can only maintain herself this way for so long before something in her gives, for better or worse. i am trying to not take it all personally and you're right - she is self-destructing and our interactions aren't going to go well. [/QUOTE]
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