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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 235884" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>Yeah, had that sick-to-my-stomach-with-dread feeling before, too. I'm just so sorry you're having to deal with this.</p><p> </p><p>Have you talked to difficult child about appropriate use of his own phone? That could open the door to a dialog about what he has or hasn't seen or what his dad has or hasn't shown him.</p><p> </p><p>husband sounds like he wants more to be a buddy to difficult child than a parent. difficult child will have plenty of buddies in his life. But only one dad. He's blowing it big time. You'd get better support from a sitter that you hire to make sure stuff gets done.</p><p></p><p>When I was having issues with husband about following through on parenting responsibilities, like getting the kids to bed when I went out for the evening with friends (a simple request, but not something he could be counted on to do on a school night. I'd come home at 11pm and my second grader was still up watching TV and neither difficult child had been given medications) I finally broke down and hired a sitter for those nights. I stopped letting myself be disappointed and found my own solutions. After a while of being embarassed by me paying a 16yo girl to get our kids to bed and make sure they were medicated while he was in the house, husband got the message and started working harder at being a dad instead of a playmate.</p><p> </p><p>Your therapist has her work cut out for her. Even if husband doesn't go, you need to go so you can get your bearings and figure out what you want to do about all this.</p><p> </p><p>Sending major hugs to you!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 235884, member: 3444"] Yeah, had that sick-to-my-stomach-with-dread feeling before, too. I'm just so sorry you're having to deal with this. Have you talked to difficult child about appropriate use of his own phone? That could open the door to a dialog about what he has or hasn't seen or what his dad has or hasn't shown him. husband sounds like he wants more to be a buddy to difficult child than a parent. difficult child will have plenty of buddies in his life. But only one dad. He's blowing it big time. You'd get better support from a sitter that you hire to make sure stuff gets done. When I was having issues with husband about following through on parenting responsibilities, like getting the kids to bed when I went out for the evening with friends (a simple request, but not something he could be counted on to do on a school night. I'd come home at 11pm and my second grader was still up watching TV and neither difficult child had been given medications) I finally broke down and hired a sitter for those nights. I stopped letting myself be disappointed and found my own solutions. After a while of being embarassed by me paying a 16yo girl to get our kids to bed and make sure they were medicated while he was in the house, husband got the message and started working harder at being a dad instead of a playmate. Your therapist has her work cut out for her. Even if husband doesn't go, you need to go so you can get your bearings and figure out what you want to do about all this. Sending major hugs to you! [/QUOTE]
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