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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 190863"><p>You all make good points and I probably will go back, if for no other reason to get it off my chest, but....</p><p></p><p>I am informed patient. Anytime I have labwork done - at my GP's office or hospital or ER - I ask what tests they are running and then I ask the results. I am actively involved in my health care. I don't - any longer - have blind faith in any doctors. Not that I think they are bad. Just that I realize they are human and oversights are made and it is my responsibility to keep track of my health and health information. And because I use this information to educate myself and research my health conditions or possible conditions.</p><p></p><p>So, when he 'slid' that in there without first discussing it with me - and then patronizing me with his comments - it ****** me off. I know that people lie. I'm aware of that. But, to treat everyone as though they are lying is wrong. I am tired of paying for everyone else's sins. And his response that it is 'standard screening process these days' is not valid. I've never had it done before. I haven't been in real therapy for 4 years, but I did see a therapist briefly after my heart attack and it never came up other than a box to mark on the paperwork.</p><p></p><p>Maybe this is just self-righteous indignation. I don't know. But, I do know that the friend I got back in contact with just started seeing a therapist last week and her therapist didn't bring up substance use at all. And during the time my friend and I were not in touch, she started smoking pot. Imagine that.</p><p></p><p>And when I was severely depressed before and for years after - until I got the GP I have now - and suffered from insomnia for years (averaging 4-5 hours of sleep a night for years), I was either offered an AP with a lot of side effects or told to take melatonin. Yet a male acquaintance of mine calls his doctor because he doesn't sleep one night and his doctor - who diagnosis'd (erroneously) this guy with bipolar - called in 30 ambien with refills. And he abused them. Took a couple and drank. Did the same thing with Xanax. Called his doctor cause he was getting divorced and was stressed, his doctor calls in a bunch of xanax with refills. Next thing you know, I'm talking to him and he's taken 5 Xanax and is drinking heavily. He really didn't like it when I told him that if he did it again I was calling his doctor and informing him.</p><p></p><p>I found it very arrogant and insulting. Not just that he's pulling those records - of which there are none - but that his responses to me were condescending and patronizing. Nuh uh. I don't do passive-aggressive. I am not there to waste my time by lying nor am I there for attention. I hate going. If he can't believe what I tell him then he is wasting my time. If he is going to second guess me then there is no point. </p><p></p><p>So, as you can see hours later I still feel very strongly. I will go and get this off my chest and see if he can handle a woman with a strong personality, who doesn't pull any punches and who expects to be informed and aware of what is going on regarding her health/mental health care. And see if I feel like I can trust him. Cause right now, I don't. It may not matter. He may not like what I have to say to him and not want to see me anymore. I got the impression that he's used to doling out platitudes and, well, that just doesn't go over well with me.</p><p></p><p>And just for clarification, this is a therapist not a psychiatrist. He's not prescribing me anything. Besides, even if he could and tried, I probably wouldn't take it. I'm happy trying the lamictal in addition to my lexapro and am not easily swayed when it comes to my medications.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 190863"] You all make good points and I probably will go back, if for no other reason to get it off my chest, but.... I am informed patient. Anytime I have labwork done - at my GP's office or hospital or ER - I ask what tests they are running and then I ask the results. I am actively involved in my health care. I don't - any longer - have blind faith in any doctors. Not that I think they are bad. Just that I realize they are human and oversights are made and it is my responsibility to keep track of my health and health information. And because I use this information to educate myself and research my health conditions or possible conditions. So, when he 'slid' that in there without first discussing it with me - and then patronizing me with his comments - it ****** me off. I know that people lie. I'm aware of that. But, to treat everyone as though they are lying is wrong. I am tired of paying for everyone else's sins. And his response that it is 'standard screening process these days' is not valid. I've never had it done before. I haven't been in real therapy for 4 years, but I did see a therapist briefly after my heart attack and it never came up other than a box to mark on the paperwork. Maybe this is just self-righteous indignation. I don't know. But, I do know that the friend I got back in contact with just started seeing a therapist last week and her therapist didn't bring up substance use at all. And during the time my friend and I were not in touch, she started smoking pot. Imagine that. And when I was severely depressed before and for years after - until I got the GP I have now - and suffered from insomnia for years (averaging 4-5 hours of sleep a night for years), I was either offered an AP with a lot of side effects or told to take melatonin. Yet a male acquaintance of mine calls his doctor because he doesn't sleep one night and his doctor - who diagnosis'd (erroneously) this guy with bipolar - called in 30 ambien with refills. And he abused them. Took a couple and drank. Did the same thing with Xanax. Called his doctor cause he was getting divorced and was stressed, his doctor calls in a bunch of xanax with refills. Next thing you know, I'm talking to him and he's taken 5 Xanax and is drinking heavily. He really didn't like it when I told him that if he did it again I was calling his doctor and informing him. I found it very arrogant and insulting. Not just that he's pulling those records - of which there are none - but that his responses to me were condescending and patronizing. Nuh uh. I don't do passive-aggressive. I am not there to waste my time by lying nor am I there for attention. I hate going. If he can't believe what I tell him then he is wasting my time. If he is going to second guess me then there is no point. So, as you can see hours later I still feel very strongly. I will go and get this off my chest and see if he can handle a woman with a strong personality, who doesn't pull any punches and who expects to be informed and aware of what is going on regarding her health/mental health care. And see if I feel like I can trust him. Cause right now, I don't. It may not matter. He may not like what I have to say to him and not want to see me anymore. I got the impression that he's used to doling out platitudes and, well, that just doesn't go over well with me. And just for clarification, this is a therapist not a psychiatrist. He's not prescribing me anything. Besides, even if he could and tried, I probably wouldn't take it. I'm happy trying the lamictal in addition to my lexapro and am not easily swayed when it comes to my medications. [/QUOTE]
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