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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 405290" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Jena don't be so hard on yourself. You can only do the best you can do and let the rest go.</p><p></p><p>First lesson. Stop feeling guilty that easy child has to "deal" with life with a difficult child. You didn't cause it, no one caused it, it just IS. Huge part of life is learning to deal with such things. easy child will be fine, most likely will turn out far more awesome than if never exposed to a difficult child on the homefront as she'll have insight and wisdom others don't, not to mention empathy.</p><p></p><p>Just do what you can to give her some of the "normal" stuff. Me? I never did teens in groups. I can't tolerate teens in groups. Travis would've gone over the deep end.......So yeah. easy child got to have the occasional sleep over. Nichole got to have the occasional sleep over. They had fun. And it wasn't sensory overload for Travis and didn't drive ME over the edge. lol</p><p></p><p>Having difficult child kids is hard work and it's draining, demanding. In comparison, sometimes easy child's don't always get the attention they need or to do the stuff they MIGHT do otherwise. I did what I could to give easy child what she needed, since she has always been pretty independent, it wasn't me smothering her by a long shot. lol </p><p></p><p>Shoot, having mult difficult children can be it's own nitemare at times. Two who both really need you to be on top of it all the time.....and always one step ahead of the game......Ugh. </p><p></p><p>I'm not super human, nor a super hero. I just watched for moments when each one of them looked as if they could use a special mom moment.......or whatever. Then did what I could to give it to them. If I couldn't, then I couldn't. Sometimes life works that way.</p><p></p><p>in my opinion growing up with difficult children turned easy child into one of the best d*mn nurses I've ever seen. And a d*mn fine Mom too, as the kids can't slip anything past her. lol It wasn't a bed of roses, but do I think it hurt her? Nope, not really.</p><p></p><p>So stop being so hard on yourself. </p><p></p><p>((hugs))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 405290, member: 84"] Jena don't be so hard on yourself. You can only do the best you can do and let the rest go. First lesson. Stop feeling guilty that easy child has to "deal" with life with a difficult child. You didn't cause it, no one caused it, it just IS. Huge part of life is learning to deal with such things. easy child will be fine, most likely will turn out far more awesome than if never exposed to a difficult child on the homefront as she'll have insight and wisdom others don't, not to mention empathy. Just do what you can to give her some of the "normal" stuff. Me? I never did teens in groups. I can't tolerate teens in groups. Travis would've gone over the deep end.......So yeah. easy child got to have the occasional sleep over. Nichole got to have the occasional sleep over. They had fun. And it wasn't sensory overload for Travis and didn't drive ME over the edge. lol Having difficult child kids is hard work and it's draining, demanding. In comparison, sometimes easy child's don't always get the attention they need or to do the stuff they MIGHT do otherwise. I did what I could to give easy child what she needed, since she has always been pretty independent, it wasn't me smothering her by a long shot. lol Shoot, having mult difficult children can be it's own nitemare at times. Two who both really need you to be on top of it all the time.....and always one step ahead of the game......Ugh. I'm not super human, nor a super hero. I just watched for moments when each one of them looked as if they could use a special mom moment.......or whatever. Then did what I could to give it to them. If I couldn't, then I couldn't. Sometimes life works that way. in my opinion growing up with difficult children turned easy child into one of the best d*mn nurses I've ever seen. And a d*mn fine Mom too, as the kids can't slip anything past her. lol It wasn't a bed of roses, but do I think it hurt her? Nope, not really. So stop being so hard on yourself. ((hugs)) [/QUOTE]
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