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I so can't deal with this right now...
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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 374537" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">Shari, I agree with TM. I know that's what you tried, but sometimes looking at it differently will help you to detach from a situation.</span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">For example, we know that dealing with an alcoholic can be difficult and toxic, so we're taught in Alanon to focus on ourselves and our own behaviors and situations that we DO have control over. Perhaps viewing cgfg and H's relationship in that way will help you to be involved in what you do have control over and let the rest go - i.e., it's not your problem and has nothing to do with you. I know it's difficult, and this approach could adverserly affect your marriage, but you're beating yourself up against a brick wall with cgfg and the way in which H deals with her. on the other hand, if the change begins with you, you just never know, others may follow your lead. Hugs, it stinks living in a blended/step family, it really does. I know it was rough for my H to be a step dad many times. I think his approach would have been different if my girls were his bio-kids, but I can't change history or past events. All we can do it take it one day at a time and remind ourselves to try again. Hugs~</span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 374537, member: 2211"] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]Shari, I agree with TM. I know that's what you tried, but sometimes looking at it differently will help you to detach from a situation.[/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]For example, we know that dealing with an alcoholic can be difficult and toxic, so we're taught in Alanon to focus on ourselves and our own behaviors and situations that we DO have control over. Perhaps viewing cgfg and H's relationship in that way will help you to be involved in what you do have control over and let the rest go - i.e., it's not your problem and has nothing to do with you. I know it's difficult, and this approach could adverserly affect your marriage, but you're beating yourself up against a brick wall with cgfg and the way in which H deals with her. on the other hand, if the change begins with you, you just never know, others may follow your lead. Hugs, it stinks living in a blended/step family, it really does. I know it was rough for my H to be a step dad many times. I think his approach would have been different if my girls were his bio-kids, but I can't change history or past events. All we can do it take it one day at a time and remind ourselves to try again. Hugs~[/COLOR][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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