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I so can't deal with this right now...
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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 374695" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>Wend, you are absolutely right about that. There is no communication anymore. I realized last night that I can not carry on any sort of meaningful conversation with him regarding Wee, or what happened today, or a lot of things, because he is so far removed from the situations. And that is partly my fault for not addressing it sooner. Ok, I tried to address it. But I should have forced the issue sooner. </p><p> </p><p>This isn't really about cgfg. Or Wee. Its about a really big problem husband and I have. </p><p> </p><p>When he came home last night, I was sitting outside. Just sitting. No book, no computer, nothing. I said we needed to fix this and he agreed. Then he went to the tv and stayed there til 1am. Not a week ago he agreed the tv was a big part of the problem. So what do I do?</p><p> </p><p>Heck, the scenario with cgfg. I can't tell you how many times that same exact scenario has played out or how many times in the past I've told him how it comes across to me. He's said he just doesn't think about things like that, but he also said he agreed that it was a slap in my face. But yet, here it was, happening yet again. (by the way - cgfg rarely asks him to do anything with the horses unless its in this setup - again, he agrees that it happens this way - and my problem with his tactic is that he gets distracted from the issue (and he agrees to that) and then he forgets to do anything. And thats fine if I'm not involved.). I have never blown up about it like I did Wed night over this. Ever. And I'm not sure where to go from here, but I know this isn't good.</p><p> </p><p>I'm not innocent and I'm not perfect, but when I do get him to talk to me, he won't tell me anything he wants different from me or what I can contribute to make the situation better.</p><p> </p><p>I dont know what to do to fix this. I don't know that I <em>can</em> fix this. I just know that I am on overload, and feel entirely alone on all fronts.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 374695, member: 1848"] Wend, you are absolutely right about that. There is no communication anymore. I realized last night that I can not carry on any sort of meaningful conversation with him regarding Wee, or what happened today, or a lot of things, because he is so far removed from the situations. And that is partly my fault for not addressing it sooner. Ok, I tried to address it. But I should have forced the issue sooner. This isn't really about cgfg. Or Wee. Its about a really big problem husband and I have. When he came home last night, I was sitting outside. Just sitting. No book, no computer, nothing. I said we needed to fix this and he agreed. Then he went to the tv and stayed there til 1am. Not a week ago he agreed the tv was a big part of the problem. So what do I do? Heck, the scenario with cgfg. I can't tell you how many times that same exact scenario has played out or how many times in the past I've told him how it comes across to me. He's said he just doesn't think about things like that, but he also said he agreed that it was a slap in my face. But yet, here it was, happening yet again. (by the way - cgfg rarely asks him to do anything with the horses unless its in this setup - again, he agrees that it happens this way - and my problem with his tactic is that he gets distracted from the issue (and he agrees to that) and then he forgets to do anything. And thats fine if I'm not involved.). I have never blown up about it like I did Wed night over this. Ever. And I'm not sure where to go from here, but I know this isn't good. I'm not innocent and I'm not perfect, but when I do get him to talk to me, he won't tell me anything he wants different from me or what I can contribute to make the situation better. I dont know what to do to fix this. I don't know that I [I]can[/I] fix this. I just know that I am on overload, and feel entirely alone on all fronts. [/QUOTE]
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