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<blockquote data-quote="Suz" data-source="post: 23978" data-attributes="member: 29"><p><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">While I know there was no way to predict this outcome it still saddens me that helping him might actually have hurt him more in the long run. </div></div></p><p></p><p>Reading this just broke my heart because I could relate to your feelings, RM. </p><p></p><p>Rob's sister was adopted by a seasoned adoptive Mom and Dad. I think they've adopted something like 18 kids (and have 3 bios). She told me lots of things but several things really stuck with me. One was "You will probably never know what a difference you have made in Rob's life. Maybe he will only get one prison term instead of two. Maybe it will be life in prison instead of the death sentence."</p><p></p><p>Yes, she was being sarcastic. But she was also being sincere. And trying to help me see that I had a positive influence even when I felt like I'd been a failure.</p><p></p><p>At the time she and I chuckled in a sardonic way but the truth is, we really don't know what kind of impact we've had on our boys. </p><p></p><p>Rob "presents" as *normal* so people expect normal behavior from him. They can't see his skewed thinking. I suspect it is similar with your son. So if they *seem* normal and aren't there almost seems like a double whammy.</p><p></p><p>I don't have any answers, that's for sure. I don't even know if you will find any comfort in what I've said. I guess I just want you to know that I understand your heartbreak.</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p>Suz</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Suz, post: 23978, member: 29"] <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body">While I know there was no way to predict this outcome it still saddens me that helping him might actually have hurt him more in the long run. </div></div> Reading this just broke my heart because I could relate to your feelings, RM. Rob's sister was adopted by a seasoned adoptive Mom and Dad. I think they've adopted something like 18 kids (and have 3 bios). She told me lots of things but several things really stuck with me. One was "You will probably never know what a difference you have made in Rob's life. Maybe he will only get one prison term instead of two. Maybe it will be life in prison instead of the death sentence." Yes, she was being sarcastic. But she was also being sincere. And trying to help me see that I had a positive influence even when I felt like I'd been a failure. At the time she and I chuckled in a sardonic way but the truth is, we really don't know what kind of impact we've had on our boys. Rob "presents" as *normal* so people expect normal behavior from him. They can't see his skewed thinking. I suspect it is similar with your son. So if they *seem* normal and aren't there almost seems like a double whammy. I don't have any answers, that's for sure. I don't even know if you will find any comfort in what I've said. I guess I just want you to know that I understand your heartbreak. Hugs, Suz [/QUOTE]
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