that she isn't drinking it away but rather giving it to charity. My mother has called me four times since last November: 1st time to ask me help with some paperwork on this side of the border (sober). 2nd time to follow-up (sober). 3rd time she left a drunken message on Inauguration Day going on about power to the people, etc. She never mentioned Duckie though it was her birthday. And the fourth time was tonight. She recently started receiving survivor benefits from SSI and my father's benefits. She needed my help to get this lined up since she is a US citizen living in Canada. My mother has lived a financially marginal life since she left my father due to her mental illness and drug/alcohol use so I was guardedly relieved that she would have more than the minimal amount needed to survive. This, of course, is tempered by the knowledge that she would most likely smoke or drink more. There are minor complications with the additional funds such as more complicated taxes and her rent subsidy being substantially reduced. So she called and left a message tonight. She will be giving my father's pension a local charity on a monthly basis. I appreciate the generosity of her act. It is truly selfless given her circumstances. It is also her money to do with as she pleases. And I suppose I should be happy that she's not boozing it away. But I'm not looking forward to her not having groceries for herself, or her utilities not paid. My sense of her security is shaken.