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I *think* difficult child will be back in town soon. here we go again...
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 534004" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi, Sig. I seriously don't know what I'd have done if I'd lived closer to Scott when all this stuff first happened to us. It was better in my opinion that he was a state away. </p><p></p><p>in my opinion only, and I respect the other suggestions, I would not go out of my way to give him a reminder of Memory Road and how much it means to all of you to have him at family affairs. I mean, you know your son better than i do, but when I did that, it backfired and I felt even worse. When my father was very sick (he was 85) I asked Scott to at least call him for his sake. After all, Scott wasn't angry at HIM. He did not do it. It caused so many mixed emotion inside of me (none of them good) that I'd hate for you to have to go through that crapola. I really think an invite is enough to let him know he is welcome, and his actions will be his response. He is being very difficult now and may just feel rebellious toward anything you say. And who knows if this girlfriend that you like so much isn't feeding into his stuff? I found "less is more." Get your point across with as little interaction as possible and wait. He may come back, but most likely on his terms and maybe with conditions.</p><p></p><p>One thing we can retain is our pride. </p><p></p><p>I was very sad about Scott for a long time. Then eventually I got busy with other stuff and it got better. Then I had my meeting with him, one that I hope you never have to experience, and the pain is almost gone. Time is your friend.</p><p></p><p>(((Hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 534004, member: 1550"] Hi, Sig. I seriously don't know what I'd have done if I'd lived closer to Scott when all this stuff first happened to us. It was better in my opinion that he was a state away. in my opinion only, and I respect the other suggestions, I would not go out of my way to give him a reminder of Memory Road and how much it means to all of you to have him at family affairs. I mean, you know your son better than i do, but when I did that, it backfired and I felt even worse. When my father was very sick (he was 85) I asked Scott to at least call him for his sake. After all, Scott wasn't angry at HIM. He did not do it. It caused so many mixed emotion inside of me (none of them good) that I'd hate for you to have to go through that crapola. I really think an invite is enough to let him know he is welcome, and his actions will be his response. He is being very difficult now and may just feel rebellious toward anything you say. And who knows if this girlfriend that you like so much isn't feeding into his stuff? I found "less is more." Get your point across with as little interaction as possible and wait. He may come back, but most likely on his terms and maybe with conditions. One thing we can retain is our pride. I was very sad about Scott for a long time. Then eventually I got busy with other stuff and it got better. Then I had my meeting with him, one that I hope you never have to experience, and the pain is almost gone. Time is your friend. (((Hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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