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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 351672" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>So very true skeeter. I realized that in all honesty, besides the world class ick factor and the innocent kids involved, bff's husband is only a side issue. When I confronted Nichole, I pointed out exactly what <em><strong>she's</strong></em> been doing for the past couple of weeks. I would feel the same way if it were another man. That she chose bff's husband only made it worse, it isn't the source. I think she chose him because he was convenient. If he wasn't there she'd have chosen someone else, slim chance she'd have come home. Somewhere along the way she has decided to blame me for everything that is wrong in her life. Old news. Her therapist and psychiatrist never bought it (something that always ticked her off) and believed it was a manipulation tactic. I just don't get why she always tries to use it when it doesn't work. </p><p></p><p>Initially her response made me angry. But then I was pretty darn furious to begin with. It didn't hurt because none of it is true and I know it. Reading through it again this morning, me thinks I struck a nerve. She usually reacts this way when I've hit the nail on the head. </p><p></p><p>Love it that yet again she's told me to stay out of her life and forget her, yet she still hasn't removed me from her fb page as a friend. Got to love that difficult child logic. If I'd had a run in with my Mom.....that would've been the first thing I'd have done. </p><p></p><p>Makes my heart hurt for Aubrey. She doesn't deserve to grow up with the life I had as a child. The only reason I didn't turn out more messed up than I did was the safety and love of my grandmother. My sibs are quite frankly.....a mess. Right now it seems as if ex boyfriend has stepped up to the plate and is attempting to be that for Aubrey. He has acted like a real man through all of this, shocked the crappola out of me. Never once has he said one bad thing against Nichole, even though she's given him plenty of ammunition. </p><p></p><p>Heather, bff's ex has always been afraid of me. Can't recall ever doing anything to cause it......at least not directed at him per se. I'm one of 2 women he treats with respect. The other is bff's Mom. Neither of us take his bull. He's afraid of her too. lol So, yeah. He could have a hand in Aubrey being returned. </p><p></p><p>Aubrey is my bottom line right now. Her safety is number 1 priority. I save the pm in case Nichole changes her mind again and attempts to move the baby into that house. Exbf may need it in court. Last thing in the world I ever want to have to do. But I will do it if she forces my hand. And she knows it.</p><p></p><p>Going to make myself study pharm. Last night was the first real sleep I've had in a very long time. Now hopefully, I can concentrate again.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 351672, member: 84"] So very true skeeter. I realized that in all honesty, besides the world class ick factor and the innocent kids involved, bff's husband is only a side issue. When I confronted Nichole, I pointed out exactly what [I][B]she's[/B][/I] been doing for the past couple of weeks. I would feel the same way if it were another man. That she chose bff's husband only made it worse, it isn't the source. I think she chose him because he was convenient. If he wasn't there she'd have chosen someone else, slim chance she'd have come home. Somewhere along the way she has decided to blame me for everything that is wrong in her life. Old news. Her therapist and psychiatrist never bought it (something that always ticked her off) and believed it was a manipulation tactic. I just don't get why she always tries to use it when it doesn't work. Initially her response made me angry. But then I was pretty darn furious to begin with. It didn't hurt because none of it is true and I know it. Reading through it again this morning, me thinks I struck a nerve. She usually reacts this way when I've hit the nail on the head. Love it that yet again she's told me to stay out of her life and forget her, yet she still hasn't removed me from her fb page as a friend. Got to love that difficult child logic. If I'd had a run in with my Mom.....that would've been the first thing I'd have done. Makes my heart hurt for Aubrey. She doesn't deserve to grow up with the life I had as a child. The only reason I didn't turn out more messed up than I did was the safety and love of my grandmother. My sibs are quite frankly.....a mess. Right now it seems as if ex boyfriend has stepped up to the plate and is attempting to be that for Aubrey. He has acted like a real man through all of this, shocked the crappola out of me. Never once has he said one bad thing against Nichole, even though she's given him plenty of ammunition. Heather, bff's ex has always been afraid of me. Can't recall ever doing anything to cause it......at least not directed at him per se. I'm one of 2 women he treats with respect. The other is bff's Mom. Neither of us take his bull. He's afraid of her too. lol So, yeah. He could have a hand in Aubrey being returned. Aubrey is my bottom line right now. Her safety is number 1 priority. I save the pm in case Nichole changes her mind again and attempts to move the baby into that house. Exbf may need it in court. Last thing in the world I ever want to have to do. But I will do it if she forces my hand. And she knows it. Going to make myself study pharm. Last night was the first real sleep I've had in a very long time. Now hopefully, I can concentrate again. [/QUOTE]
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