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I think I'm done.... I can't live a lie
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 696103" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>He doesnt want to be around you because of what he is doing. None of them want us to see it. I'm not saying this is happening, but he could be a meth cook. You really dont know. And it won't happen around you. They hide the bad. They are good at deception.</p><p></p><p>His sleepy behavior does remind me of how my daughter sometimes was on meth. Don't feel too bad about him selling. Drug users dont have morals. I've said it before. I'll say it again. If they use, they deal. They just tend to leave that part out.</p><p></p><p>It IS a positive that your son knows he is an addict. And you need to accept it too. Since he is, you are doing the best thing...stopping the enabling. I know it feels bad to us, but it helps them when they struggle...if they dont struggle, why quit?</p><p></p><p>You are brave to face this down. Let him do this his way. There is nothing any of us can do to control our kids who are legal adults. But we can control us...how much we will fund their bad behavior. How much we want to live joyous lives of our own.</p><p></p><p>Keep standing strong. Live your own life. Dont focus that much on your son. He is 100 percent out of your control, but YOUR life is 100 percent IN your control. Make it at good one. You are not your son. You are seperate people. They dont do well if we stay "mommy." There are too old. They need to see us as Mother... strong, brave and functioning well...not falling apart over their problems. Not seeing them as that cute little baby we held once. They are tall with deep voices and facial hair...our babys no more. Nothing like the little boys they once were either. We must look at them abd see them as they are TODAY, not as children.</p><p></p><p>With luck he will find his way while you start to enjoy your own life, regardless of how he is doing. It doesn't help him if you won't enjoy yourself.</p><p></p><p>Good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 696103, member: 1550"] He doesnt want to be around you because of what he is doing. None of them want us to see it. I'm not saying this is happening, but he could be a meth cook. You really dont know. And it won't happen around you. They hide the bad. They are good at deception. His sleepy behavior does remind me of how my daughter sometimes was on meth. Don't feel too bad about him selling. Drug users dont have morals. I've said it before. I'll say it again. If they use, they deal. They just tend to leave that part out. It IS a positive that your son knows he is an addict. And you need to accept it too. Since he is, you are doing the best thing...stopping the enabling. I know it feels bad to us, but it helps them when they struggle...if they dont struggle, why quit? You are brave to face this down. Let him do this his way. There is nothing any of us can do to control our kids who are legal adults. But we can control us...how much we will fund their bad behavior. How much we want to live joyous lives of our own. Keep standing strong. Live your own life. Dont focus that much on your son. He is 100 percent out of your control, but YOUR life is 100 percent IN your control. Make it at good one. You are not your son. You are seperate people. They dont do well if we stay "mommy." There are too old. They need to see us as Mother... strong, brave and functioning well...not falling apart over their problems. Not seeing them as that cute little baby we held once. They are tall with deep voices and facial hair...our babys no more. Nothing like the little boys they once were either. We must look at them abd see them as they are TODAY, not as children. With luck he will find his way while you start to enjoy your own life, regardless of how he is doing. It doesn't help him if you won't enjoy yourself. Good luck! [/QUOTE]
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