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I think I'm done.... I can't live a lie
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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 696275" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I am quoting myself again!</p><p></p><p>I am remembering here my mother telling me how proud she would be when she would tell her friends about her daughters. A doctor and a professor, she would say. And she would tell me that nobody had children as successful as hers. Well, anybody on this forum who has read my posts, knows some of what my real story has been. </p><p></p><p><em>Once my mother said something like this to me: COPA, I must have done something right if with you both as successful as you are. </em></p><p></p><p>I feel shame to say it but I smiled and said nothing at all. I did not give her the verbal validation she was seeking. Because at the time it felt like it would be a betrayal of myself. That by saying, yes Mama, I would be saying that all of the times she chose for herself--no matter the cost to us--had been rendered unimportant, because the result came out OK. Which is not true. </p><p></p><p>Now I wish I had responded to her something of what she sought. But still, I do not know what that would have been, that would tell the truth about my life, and would have made her feel better.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 696275, member: 18958"] I am quoting myself again! I am remembering here my mother telling me how proud she would be when she would tell her friends about her daughters. A doctor and a professor, she would say. And she would tell me that nobody had children as successful as hers. Well, anybody on this forum who has read my posts, knows some of what my real story has been. [I]Once my mother said something like this to me: COPA, I must have done something right if with you both as successful as you are. [/I] I feel shame to say it but I smiled and said nothing at all. I did not give her the verbal validation she was seeking. Because at the time it felt like it would be a betrayal of myself. That by saying, yes Mama, I would be saying that all of the times she chose for herself--no matter the cost to us--had been rendered unimportant, because the result came out OK. Which is not true. Now I wish I had responded to her something of what she sought. But still, I do not know what that would have been, that would tell the truth about my life, and would have made her feel better. [/QUOTE]
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