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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 506045" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>I do think Billy is using somewhat Passive Aggressive techniques at this point with us. There is no way a person that has lived with us as long as he has could be so inept. We have actually given him a learning curve to make the allowances for figuring out that my mother basically never taught him anything but how to microwave stuff but he is 30 now..almost 31. My other two boys are pretty good cooks. Cory is an excellent cook. Tony is an excellent cook and Cory learned at his daddy's knee along with being in all those group homes where the kids were expected to rotate cooking chores. </p><p></p><p>So we have been working with Billy slowly since he really came back to us at age 20. He couldnt even follow the directions on Hamburger Helper. He would end up with mush. It is still a 50/50 chance with him on any pasta because he doesnt watch to see if he is over cooking or under cooking the pasta. Half the time it is a mushy mess. He will follow me around to figure out if it is cooked right. He cant simply taste a piece to see if it is the right consistency. I have no clue why. Seems a simple thing to me.</p><p></p><p>Billy can cook hot dogs...by boiling them in water or grilling them on the grill. If you tell him to put chicken in the oven all he does is take plain chicken breasts and stick them in the oven with no seasoning. Its horrible. He does the absolute least thing he can to get by with what you say. </p><p></p><p>We are really irritated right now with him too. He had told us for the past 6 months that when he got his taxes that he was going to look for a place to move out. Well, he found out that he wasnt going to get very much back so that ended that. Instead he bought a pretty nice camera and has decided he wants to learn to be a photographer. Sigh. He has also bought a magnetic sign for his car and business cards to advertise a computer repair business. So far I havent seen any customers. Billy is still waiting for this girl in Colorado to get divorced and move out here so they can be together. I am beginning to wonder if that is ever going to happen. The job I told him about, he never even attempted to get though supposedly he has applied with the hospital here in town. I think I am going to have Tony take him to apply for section 8 and housing here in town the next time he isnt working on a week day. Tony has been the one who has kept him pretty much tied to us all these years saying he is just not ready to leave so I think he needs to be the one who takes him to apply for these things. Billy is so proud of his credit scores and all that but he can have those things because he has no bills he has to pay. </p><p></p><p>As far as Buck goes, Billy did take him down to social services to apply for food stamps and medicaid. He will probably get food stamps for three months if he can actually get the paperwork turned in but I doubt he will. He is perfectly able to read and write but he is not filling anything out. I have no idea if someone is waiting for me to say "Oh Buck, I should fill out all those forms for you!" but if they are waiting on that, they are going to be waiting a long time because I am not doing anything for someone who is perfectly capable of doing something for themselves. Hell, Tony can read and write and he brought him here. He can fill them out for that matter. Buck already made a stupid move on going to the agency on the date that he went down there so he has messed up that. No one listened to me. I have suggested that I do the application for unemployment online in SC and that was met with dead silence so I am not suggesting it again. But Buck wants to go out and cut down tree limbs and make "indian crafts" and find a store that he can get beads so he can make "real indian jewelry" to sell. I pointed out that this isnt exactly real but I was met with just rolled eyes. He intends to attempt to find real bones and such to make all sorts of ****. Its hogwash. He doesnt need a hobby, he needs a real job. A hobby can wait until he has a real job and a place of his own. </p><p></p><p>In the meantime, Tony is falling apart physically almost before my eyes. I dont know how much longer he is going to last working. It scares the living heck out of both of us I think. Him most of all. Almost every week something else starts to hurt worse. His right arm is going numb constantly from the shoulder down. At first it hurt really bad but the pain pretty much is only bad when he has to lift something or he lays on it. Now it is numb if he keeps it in one position for more than a few minutes. That is pretty scary considering what he does. His back is going out now and he had a pretty bad back injury when he was younger on the job. His heels are killing him so I imagine he has heel spurs too now. I have no idea how he can get help for this because we dont have local clinics that can help him and he isnt eligible for medicaid at all. I dont think he will get disability either because he doesnt have any doctors to show his medical records because he has no insurance. </p><p></p><p>Sigh...this is just so much to go through right now. Tony and I just need to be us right now. We could probably handle our issues but having to support 2 more people on top of us just makes it more than we can do. Our jobs should be over now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 506045, member: 1514"] I do think Billy is using somewhat Passive Aggressive techniques at this point with us. There is no way a person that has lived with us as long as he has could be so inept. We have actually given him a learning curve to make the allowances for figuring out that my mother basically never taught him anything but how to microwave stuff but he is 30 now..almost 31. My other two boys are pretty good cooks. Cory is an excellent cook. Tony is an excellent cook and Cory learned at his daddy's knee along with being in all those group homes where the kids were expected to rotate cooking chores. So we have been working with Billy slowly since he really came back to us at age 20. He couldnt even follow the directions on Hamburger Helper. He would end up with mush. It is still a 50/50 chance with him on any pasta because he doesnt watch to see if he is over cooking or under cooking the pasta. Half the time it is a mushy mess. He will follow me around to figure out if it is cooked right. He cant simply taste a piece to see if it is the right consistency. I have no clue why. Seems a simple thing to me. Billy can cook hot dogs...by boiling them in water or grilling them on the grill. If you tell him to put chicken in the oven all he does is take plain chicken breasts and stick them in the oven with no seasoning. Its horrible. He does the absolute least thing he can to get by with what you say. We are really irritated right now with him too. He had told us for the past 6 months that when he got his taxes that he was going to look for a place to move out. Well, he found out that he wasnt going to get very much back so that ended that. Instead he bought a pretty nice camera and has decided he wants to learn to be a photographer. Sigh. He has also bought a magnetic sign for his car and business cards to advertise a computer repair business. So far I havent seen any customers. Billy is still waiting for this girl in Colorado to get divorced and move out here so they can be together. I am beginning to wonder if that is ever going to happen. The job I told him about, he never even attempted to get though supposedly he has applied with the hospital here in town. I think I am going to have Tony take him to apply for section 8 and housing here in town the next time he isnt working on a week day. Tony has been the one who has kept him pretty much tied to us all these years saying he is just not ready to leave so I think he needs to be the one who takes him to apply for these things. Billy is so proud of his credit scores and all that but he can have those things because he has no bills he has to pay. As far as Buck goes, Billy did take him down to social services to apply for food stamps and medicaid. He will probably get food stamps for three months if he can actually get the paperwork turned in but I doubt he will. He is perfectly able to read and write but he is not filling anything out. I have no idea if someone is waiting for me to say "Oh Buck, I should fill out all those forms for you!" but if they are waiting on that, they are going to be waiting a long time because I am not doing anything for someone who is perfectly capable of doing something for themselves. Hell, Tony can read and write and he brought him here. He can fill them out for that matter. Buck already made a stupid move on going to the agency on the date that he went down there so he has messed up that. No one listened to me. I have suggested that I do the application for unemployment online in SC and that was met with dead silence so I am not suggesting it again. But Buck wants to go out and cut down tree limbs and make "indian crafts" and find a store that he can get beads so he can make "real indian jewelry" to sell. I pointed out that this isnt exactly real but I was met with just rolled eyes. He intends to attempt to find real bones and such to make all sorts of ****. Its hogwash. He doesnt need a hobby, he needs a real job. A hobby can wait until he has a real job and a place of his own. In the meantime, Tony is falling apart physically almost before my eyes. I dont know how much longer he is going to last working. It scares the living heck out of both of us I think. Him most of all. Almost every week something else starts to hurt worse. His right arm is going numb constantly from the shoulder down. At first it hurt really bad but the pain pretty much is only bad when he has to lift something or he lays on it. Now it is numb if he keeps it in one position for more than a few minutes. That is pretty scary considering what he does. His back is going out now and he had a pretty bad back injury when he was younger on the job. His heels are killing him so I imagine he has heel spurs too now. I have no idea how he can get help for this because we dont have local clinics that can help him and he isnt eligible for medicaid at all. I dont think he will get disability either because he doesnt have any doctors to show his medical records because he has no insurance. Sigh...this is just so much to go through right now. Tony and I just need to be us right now. We could probably handle our issues but having to support 2 more people on top of us just makes it more than we can do. Our jobs should be over now. [/QUOTE]
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