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I thought difficult child was moving into a different realm....
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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 478181" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I can't go there DJ- he's my son. LOL!</p><p></p><p>Donna, the PO called me to let me know difficult child had been charged with something and it might effect his release date because we are working out terms of parole this week, which include transport, etc. The lady I called this afternoon to get more information didn't come right out and say what their biggest problem with this was but she did stress the wording "it was a FEMALE staff person". OK- I know, not a pretty sight but still- she's working in Department of Juvenile Justice with a lot of males. And she said that "we have rules on this and the boys know and it was the fact that he wasn't covered up". That implies to me that maybe the boys are told to 'keep it under the blanket' or something along those lines. </p><p></p><p>As far as how she actually 'saw' anything- she didn't go into his room but the doors to the rooms have view windows. She made rounds- walking and looking in the view windows. I know difficult child knows that staff make rounds but even though they are supposed to do them somewhat regularly and timely, difficult child has mentioned in the past that some staff don't do it at all and some do it whenever they feel like it. The lady I spoke to today said that difficult child had not called for staff and requested this female staff person or any staff person to come to his room and he was in his bed, not near the door or view window, so the general concensus of the staff was that he did not intend or try to be 'seen'. I feel sure that he didn't- unless he's changed a whole lot the past couple of years. He would have been mortified if anyone saw him when he was living with me.</p><p></p><p>Also, I asked if this lady who saw him was the one to report it and the lady told me no, but she told her super who reported it. That's the same as her reporting it to me but that's a good sign. I just wanted to make sure this wasn't a corrupt staff woman who was getting her jollies by watching him or who might have encouraged it. So I do think that part is kosher. I guess they have those rules to 'keep it covered' to prevent too much exposure since females are staff, too, and because these are all juveniles. Still, I would hope they would just let this go and not hold difficult child in there longer for it. They also said they did not put him in lock for it and kept him in the unit, continuing his treatment plan, so that's a good sign. I tend to think this must be a new staff person who just is caught up in the rules. Certainly, I can see a report if it was 2 boys or a boy was trying to 'flaunt' to a staff or try to engage a staff in an act. But they have much bigger problems to worry about than difficult child becoming uncovered when he's alone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 478181, member: 3699"] I can't go there DJ- he's my son. LOL! Donna, the PO called me to let me know difficult child had been charged with something and it might effect his release date because we are working out terms of parole this week, which include transport, etc. The lady I called this afternoon to get more information didn't come right out and say what their biggest problem with this was but she did stress the wording "it was a FEMALE staff person". OK- I know, not a pretty sight but still- she's working in Department of Juvenile Justice with a lot of males. And she said that "we have rules on this and the boys know and it was the fact that he wasn't covered up". That implies to me that maybe the boys are told to 'keep it under the blanket' or something along those lines. As far as how she actually 'saw' anything- she didn't go into his room but the doors to the rooms have view windows. She made rounds- walking and looking in the view windows. I know difficult child knows that staff make rounds but even though they are supposed to do them somewhat regularly and timely, difficult child has mentioned in the past that some staff don't do it at all and some do it whenever they feel like it. The lady I spoke to today said that difficult child had not called for staff and requested this female staff person or any staff person to come to his room and he was in his bed, not near the door or view window, so the general concensus of the staff was that he did not intend or try to be 'seen'. I feel sure that he didn't- unless he's changed a whole lot the past couple of years. He would have been mortified if anyone saw him when he was living with me. Also, I asked if this lady who saw him was the one to report it and the lady told me no, but she told her super who reported it. That's the same as her reporting it to me but that's a good sign. I just wanted to make sure this wasn't a corrupt staff woman who was getting her jollies by watching him or who might have encouraged it. So I do think that part is kosher. I guess they have those rules to 'keep it covered' to prevent too much exposure since females are staff, too, and because these are all juveniles. Still, I would hope they would just let this go and not hold difficult child in there longer for it. They also said they did not put him in lock for it and kept him in the unit, continuing his treatment plan, so that's a good sign. I tend to think this must be a new staff person who just is caught up in the rules. Certainly, I can see a report if it was 2 boys or a boy was trying to 'flaunt' to a staff or try to engage a staff in an act. But they have much bigger problems to worry about than difficult child becoming uncovered when he's alone. [/QUOTE]
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