I got a call this am from PO. He said he'd just rec'd an email from difficult child's behavior counselor at Department of Juvenile Justice and difficult child had rec'd a sexual offense charge last night. My heart sank. I guess all the stuff on tv about the asst coach has this in the forefront in my miind and with all difficult child's past antics, he had never crossed the line into sexual issues, except for the lingeree phase during puberty. I visualized all possible situations then asked PO what exactly difficult child did and who else was involved. As it turns out, there was a female staff worker on duty in his unit last night. She got up to do rounds and look into each boy's room to check on them. difficult child was, well....taking care of himself, on his bed, but not covered to hide it. Oooopss....still, he was charged with an offense. I hope this doesn't offend anyone but, boy was I relieved!! I told PO that if difficult child wasn't trying to be seen or engage someone else in anyway and someone just happened to walk by and catch a peek of something then I didn't consider that deviant and felt they should just let it go and it shouldn't effect his release date. He agreed. It's not up to us though. Still, I was and am sooooo relieved! I wanted to yell out, "well, what do you expect a teen boy who's been incarcerated for years to do??"" LOL!! I seriously think the embaressment for difficult child getting a charge for this, having to be confronted with it and answer to it to a group of mixed-gendered staff and knowing his mom was informed of what he did is going to be enough of a punishment for him!