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"I want M. to die. And I want mommy to die too." My Grandson
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 588373" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I don't think my son feels his child is being physically abused. There is no protection for verbal abuse or for yelling at a child. And you can't force ex to get rid of her useless boyfriend.</p><p></p><p>I am learning that divorce and custody is difficult. Attornys are extremely expensive and a lot of people don't have them for that reason. Getting free help is hard...you have to make a very low salary. They do not take your expenses into account. Before the divorce, my son got himself into deep water financially and nobody cares that his wife ran off with another man and that now his expenses are his and his alone. Son made some horrible spending choices. </p><p></p><p>A custody battle is not cut and dried an d can and often does cost $30-$80, 000, which is why they don't happen very often unless you have money in your family to help you. Even if he did, he would not be granted soul custody. There is no proof that his son is ever beaten. There is nothing illegal about ex having a new honey moving in, in fact they claim to be engaged. A child of five saying "Mommy is mean, she yells at me" won't change custody. Neither will, "I hate M." Sad fact is most people can not even afford the initial retainer fee for a divorce attorney let alone a long custody battle which usually includes paying expert witnesses, such as therapists. Son dated a divorce attorney for a while and learned a lot about his options from her. She was not willing, however, to go to court for him and pretty much said he had no case. </p><p></p><p>The therapist I totally agree about. He can't however just take his son to a therapist without ex's approval and she is insisting it is her therapist or no therapist. It's true that he doesn't qualify for the county services because I called them for him while he was at work and they said you can only make XXX amount of dollars and he makes way over that, although, because of his own pre-divorce spending, he is broke. Plus his post-divorce child support. It is unsure if ex would agree to that therapy either. She doesn't really "believe" in therapy, except, of course, for herself. And she will only take her son to a therapist who knows her side of the story already and will side with her, rather than focus on her son. He has already gone to that therapist and it obviously isn't helping him.</p><p></p><p>If it were my call, I'd take him to a seperate therapist and the hello with ex, but it's not my call. I have nothing to say about this, and it was just a sad vent.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 588373, member: 1550"] I don't think my son feels his child is being physically abused. There is no protection for verbal abuse or for yelling at a child. And you can't force ex to get rid of her useless boyfriend. I am learning that divorce and custody is difficult. Attornys are extremely expensive and a lot of people don't have them for that reason. Getting free help is hard...you have to make a very low salary. They do not take your expenses into account. Before the divorce, my son got himself into deep water financially and nobody cares that his wife ran off with another man and that now his expenses are his and his alone. Son made some horrible spending choices. A custody battle is not cut and dried an d can and often does cost $30-$80, 000, which is why they don't happen very often unless you have money in your family to help you. Even if he did, he would not be granted soul custody. There is no proof that his son is ever beaten. There is nothing illegal about ex having a new honey moving in, in fact they claim to be engaged. A child of five saying "Mommy is mean, she yells at me" won't change custody. Neither will, "I hate M." Sad fact is most people can not even afford the initial retainer fee for a divorce attorney let alone a long custody battle which usually includes paying expert witnesses, such as therapists. Son dated a divorce attorney for a while and learned a lot about his options from her. She was not willing, however, to go to court for him and pretty much said he had no case. The therapist I totally agree about. He can't however just take his son to a therapist without ex's approval and she is insisting it is her therapist or no therapist. It's true that he doesn't qualify for the county services because I called them for him while he was at work and they said you can only make XXX amount of dollars and he makes way over that, although, because of his own pre-divorce spending, he is broke. Plus his post-divorce child support. It is unsure if ex would agree to that therapy either. She doesn't really "believe" in therapy, except, of course, for herself. And she will only take her son to a therapist who knows her side of the story already and will side with her, rather than focus on her son. He has already gone to that therapist and it obviously isn't helping him. If it were my call, I'd take him to a seperate therapist and the hello with ex, but it's not my call. I have nothing to say about this, and it was just a sad vent. [/QUOTE]
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