I haven't spoken much about my grandson, but he has been through a lot in five years and he is precocious and very bright. My son, Mr. 35, has given me grief at times, but he is an excellent father almost all the time. His son is his life. The two of them are very close and have fun together and since mom's house is kind of like an Army, he allows J. to relax at his house. His mother is kind of a kook. My son isn't always the greatest to me, but she is a kook to everybody. She has screamed and yelled at the daycare workers in front of J. and all the other kids and the parents who were there to the point that J. covered his face in embarassment. She also was the one who ran off with a man and threw that man into J's life even before the divorce was final and insists that J. "love" her honey. They are supposedly engaged. She goes ballistic on him if he won't say "I love you" to M. I was on the phone with my son yesterday when J. interrupted and said to his father, "I don't ever want to go see mommy and M. again. Please don't make me go." My son was surprised and put the phone down so I had a bit of an ear. He told him that he should want to see his mommy because she loved him too and he started crying and said, "No, I don't want to go. When can I see a judge?" (Told you he's a smart little guy). My son got off the phone then called me back after J. was asleep and told me that J. had said, "I wish M. would die. And I wish mommy would die too." When asked about being hit or abused, J. denies it. Nobody knows what is going on. The daycare worker told my son that J. never talks about his mother or M. He talks about my son nonstop. Even when the kids were making a project for Moms, he said, "Mine is for my daddy." He is not excited when his mother comes to get him. I was at their house before the divorce and I didn't think she was particularly bad with J. My son is also very bright and he is keeping texts and records for later on. He has no money for a lawyer right now. I know there is nothing I can do other than make suggestions to my son, who is very reception (maybe too receptive) to my ideas. I am concerned about my grandson. Any feedback on what may be going on? Since the ex ran off with a man, but she did bring J. to live with them too, she has had a lot of trouble with him. My son has not had trouble with J's behavior. Ex is unwilling to spill what sorts of things J. is saying or doing at M's house when she has J. She usually yells at son and says he is brainwashing him, but I know my son well. He is no saint. He is not brainwashing his son. He doesn't even like to talk about his ex. Besides, this is a kid with a mind of his own and he's scary smart (just like his daddy was and still is). Can a five year kid already be angry at Mom for running off with a man? J. told his mom on the phone last night, "I want you to come back here and live with my daddy again." I know he needs therapy. That's a given. But any thoughts on what this little guy may be thinking of and why he is so angry at his mom and M? I'm almost positive no sexual abuse is going on (this is one thing ya never know for sure. I learned that). Son doesn't even think he is being spanked because she never believed in spanking. I'm wondering if M. is spanking him or if they are just jumping on him for every little thing. Ex had this big fantasy and she and her son would live happily ever after with her new sweetie pie. It's obviously not working out and ex has been really crabby lately. Her newest ploy to make M. a legitimate person in J's life is to write him down as somebody who can pick him up at daycare. My son, who has joint custody, told the babysitter that he doesn't want M. to pick up his son...only he and his ex should be allowed as they are the only guardians. He told the worker, "I am his father and if his mom can't pick him up, call me and I'll get him." It's petty, but ex was very upset. Maybe she got angry at J. because of my son doing that? I'm wondering if she takes her anger at my son out on J. Thoughts? Remember, this kid is only just going to be five tomorrow. He's a little guy.