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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 502174" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I don't know if this will help, but given that words like sex and curse words, etc.... are so prevalent in society, we used the concept of "grown up words" with my kids. They could hear them, they could even hear Mom or Dad slip and say them. But they are words that are ONLY for grown up use - period. Until they are adults in both the sense of being over 18 and in the sense of being able to support themselves financially, they cannot use them. At least NOT around parents, grandparents, other adults, or in school/on school property. Out behind the barn with the kids? Not my problem but I better not hear complaints. </p><p></p><p>It gave a clear guideline. I know your daughter has issues from prior abuse. This might be a way to help her grasp the social boundaries that will make her life easier if she follows. I would even put it that way - it will make her life EASIER and you can get away with more stuff if you don't call attention to yourself. Yes, maybe that was bad parenting, but it was the ONLY way to get Wiz to follow some fo the basic rules. ANd it worked.</p><p></p><p>I am not sure how old Turtle is, if you would do a signature it would help us remember and maybe give more age-specific advice, but as she matures the abuse will have to be dealt with on a different level again and again. Sadly, that is the lasting curse of abuse. It can pop up and bite you over and over. So choke her biofather, and try to teach her and help her heal and learn that she doesn't have to take things to that level.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 502174, member: 1233"] I don't know if this will help, but given that words like sex and curse words, etc.... are so prevalent in society, we used the concept of "grown up words" with my kids. They could hear them, they could even hear Mom or Dad slip and say them. But they are words that are ONLY for grown up use - period. Until they are adults in both the sense of being over 18 and in the sense of being able to support themselves financially, they cannot use them. At least NOT around parents, grandparents, other adults, or in school/on school property. Out behind the barn with the kids? Not my problem but I better not hear complaints. It gave a clear guideline. I know your daughter has issues from prior abuse. This might be a way to help her grasp the social boundaries that will make her life easier if she follows. I would even put it that way - it will make her life EASIER and you can get away with more stuff if you don't call attention to yourself. Yes, maybe that was bad parenting, but it was the ONLY way to get Wiz to follow some fo the basic rules. ANd it worked. I am not sure how old Turtle is, if you would do a signature it would help us remember and maybe give more age-specific advice, but as she matures the abuse will have to be dealt with on a different level again and again. Sadly, that is the lasting curse of abuse. It can pop up and bite you over and over. So choke her biofather, and try to teach her and help her heal and learn that she doesn't have to take things to that level. [/QUOTE]
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