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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 182349" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>Change, I think you're looking at this wrong. While your son has made some awful choices and probably had some pretty nasty genetics to muck him up, you had to have learned an awful lot by parenting him. I know my daughter taught me patience, the ability to love regardless of what is done, the wisdom to understand when I have to stand back and let her fall. I'm sure your son has taught you little life lessons like these as well. So, if anything, he has taught you how to be a better parent than most.</p><p> </p><p>It is easy (well, comparatively speaking) to raise an average child. You nourish it, you love it, you say no and it actually listens. You, however, took a young boy and tried to save him from himself. Now, you're saving your daughter and, from the sound of it, doing a pretty good job of it.</p><p> </p><p>My advice is this -- do what you feel is best for you and yours. If having a child will add a completeness and a joy to your family, go for it. If not, don't. Worrying about whether you will be a good parent is normal for most parents. We're all afraid of making mistakes, but you're a few steps ahead of most parents -- you've parented a tough one (your daughter) and an impossible one (your son). So, make your decision on whether it will make you happy, whether you can afford another child, all the other major factors in deciding whether to have a child, but don't factor in that which isn't there. I have no doubt you would be an excellent parent. You have experiences that put you steps ahead of other parents. You know what to do if your child does X or Y or even Z.</p><p> </p><p>Whatever you ultimately decide, I wish you the best.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 182349, member: 3626"] Change, I think you're looking at this wrong. While your son has made some awful choices and probably had some pretty nasty genetics to muck him up, you had to have learned an awful lot by parenting him. I know my daughter taught me patience, the ability to love regardless of what is done, the wisdom to understand when I have to stand back and let her fall. I'm sure your son has taught you little life lessons like these as well. So, if anything, he has taught you how to be a better parent than most. It is easy (well, comparatively speaking) to raise an average child. You nourish it, you love it, you say no and it actually listens. You, however, took a young boy and tried to save him from himself. Now, you're saving your daughter and, from the sound of it, doing a pretty good job of it. My advice is this -- do what you feel is best for you and yours. If having a child will add a completeness and a joy to your family, go for it. If not, don't. Worrying about whether you will be a good parent is normal for most parents. We're all afraid of making mistakes, but you're a few steps ahead of most parents -- you've parented a tough one (your daughter) and an impossible one (your son). So, make your decision on whether it will make you happy, whether you can afford another child, all the other major factors in deciding whether to have a child, but don't factor in that which isn't there. I have no doubt you would be an excellent parent. You have experiences that put you steps ahead of other parents. You know what to do if your child does X or Y or even Z. Whatever you ultimately decide, I wish you the best. [/QUOTE]
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