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<blockquote data-quote="family mum" data-source="post: 526145" data-attributes="member: 14457"><p>I'm still in the stage where I'm trying to find help/solutions in books. I just walked up to my room and pretended to take a shower by turning on the fan and and cold water. No audience so he disappeared downstairs to watch TV. Having reminded myself with the strategies of bouncing/distracting and to go "low and slow" I came back out. Of course, peace did not reign downstairs because he started annoying his sister. So off I went, saying that I was going to make some banana bread so he bit the bait and asked to help. Problem averted right? Nope. I don't have enough flour. So, plan B. I get him interested in a cake mix. Currently he is filling the muffin tins for cup cakes. I'm trying to leave him to do it independently but I'm still close and I'm running back and forth between writing this and overseeing him.</p><p>The thing is, I can probably (might, maybe) keep him from hitting a meltdown today if I'm prepared to be super vigilant and be his constant source of entertainment. Oops scratch that. Cup cakes are in the over for the nest 12 minutes and he is back insisting about the video games. I stayed seated (low) I kept my voice soft and slow. I offered a measurable way for him to earn back his privilege ( 7 days no violence = 30 minutes access, any future incident of violence looses him the next 30 minutes of access). he started arguing still that I should loose the lap top as well. I ignored the comment, he threw a pillow in my face. I said that is an act of violence. He said that since he already lost to day that there was no point in stopping and kicked me repeatedly ( no force, more like poking a bear). husband came up and said if I won't stop him will. ( very helpful, meet confrontation with more confrontation). I picked up lap top and new cell and headed up to my room.</p><p>Of course, timer is beeping, he has retaliated by spilling my coffee on my desk and living room rug.</p><p></p><p>I can here crashing, yelling, crying and I'm afraid to go down</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="family mum, post: 526145, member: 14457"] I'm still in the stage where I'm trying to find help/solutions in books. I just walked up to my room and pretended to take a shower by turning on the fan and and cold water. No audience so he disappeared downstairs to watch TV. Having reminded myself with the strategies of bouncing/distracting and to go "low and slow" I came back out. Of course, peace did not reign downstairs because he started annoying his sister. So off I went, saying that I was going to make some banana bread so he bit the bait and asked to help. Problem averted right? Nope. I don't have enough flour. So, plan B. I get him interested in a cake mix. Currently he is filling the muffin tins for cup cakes. I'm trying to leave him to do it independently but I'm still close and I'm running back and forth between writing this and overseeing him. The thing is, I can probably (might, maybe) keep him from hitting a meltdown today if I'm prepared to be super vigilant and be his constant source of entertainment. Oops scratch that. Cup cakes are in the over for the nest 12 minutes and he is back insisting about the video games. I stayed seated (low) I kept my voice soft and slow. I offered a measurable way for him to earn back his privilege ( 7 days no violence = 30 minutes access, any future incident of violence looses him the next 30 minutes of access). he started arguing still that I should loose the lap top as well. I ignored the comment, he threw a pillow in my face. I said that is an act of violence. He said that since he already lost to day that there was no point in stopping and kicked me repeatedly ( no force, more like poking a bear). husband came up and said if I won't stop him will. ( very helpful, meet confrontation with more confrontation). I picked up lap top and new cell and headed up to my room. Of course, timer is beeping, he has retaliated by spilling my coffee on my desk and living room rug. I can here crashing, yelling, crying and I'm afraid to go down [/QUOTE]
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