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<blockquote data-quote="family mum" data-source="post: 526196" data-attributes="member: 14457"><p>Okay, I'm back. </p><p>Yes, we are in books and part of our diagnosis. We live in Quebec so our system is quite different as almost everything is covered by the provincial health plan but there are waits, sometimes very long ones. We have seen a 1st psychiatrist in mar and may 2011, who wrote a recommendation of AS put in his file, didn't call us just left us hanging because he doesn't treat AS/autism. We already have a Neurologist because of epilepsy who pushed us through the hospital to see another psychiatrist who works closely with neurology. Went to the meeting in oct 2011 but she was sick so we only met with her resident. ( complete waste of time). Dec 22 2011 we finally met with her. She said she agreed with 1st dr. but wanted difficult child to have autism test (min 2yr wait) and a neuro-psychiatric. evaluation - 3 or 4 month wait. next appoint was last week of feb. she upped the medications, but that it. i asked about doing the autism testing privately ( ie. pay for it ourselves) and she gave me a name of a psychologist that she had confidence in. We did that in march 2012, I literally went and picked up her report this afternoon. ( that's why I'm saying that I'm back.) </p><p></p><p>Since dec. we have pushed to have a social worker assigned to us ( this is also under provincial health services) we had a 1st one as emergency measure for Dec and Jan then we switched to another one who works with children with mental deficiencies and will stay with us permanently. we have met her monthly, her job is to coordinate services but she needed the report in order to move forward to get them for us. She managed to have us meet the accessment team even before we got the report so that is done, but now we are just waiting.</p><p>This week on thurs, and fri. I called at least 7 different people, incl. the 2 social workers ( both on vacation), the psychologist, the psychiatrist's office, 2 local mental health organizations and some woman who runs a social skills course in our area. I saw my GP, my psychologist, the boys' neurologist and spoke to the office of another psychologist because the neuro- psychiatric testing will finally get done nest tues. and wed.( And found this online group.)</p><p></p><p>Went I went today to pick up the report I asked to meet with the 1st psychologist and asked if she could recommend a course of action if we would go privately. So I booked an appointment with her to meet with difficult child for counselling starting next sun. She will meet with husband and I independently from difficult child to offer some parenting techniques for someone with AS. And She suggested that we meet with a colleague for family counselling. (She doesn't want difficult child to feel that her loyalty are divided so she prefers not to do this herself.) This will run us around 500$/600 a week, before medications. Oh, she also said we should try to find a male psychology student to act as a kind of intervention aid/ babysitter so that husband and I can actually both leave the house at the same time.</p><p></p><p>I am doing the best I know how, and in a lot of ways I think that I am doing a pretty good job pushing through the system and trying to adjust my behaviour as much as I can. yes, I know that I cannot make the goals to get privileges to be too big or to far away. While I mention the one for PS2 before, he did have other incentives to behave today that were much more immediate. ( He wanted green laces to go with the new shoes from yesterday.)</p><p></p><p>Removing the PS2 was primarily due to the violent nature of the games he likes to play on it, yet it is what all the teens are playing and completely removing them will mean loosing a shared interest with his friends. (Yes, he has As, but he has 3 or 4 pretty good friends.) However, I did leave him access to both the games on the computer and the Wii which we have several games for, including some that he had just asked for at x-mas' because as Lovelyboy said, they help with boredom and are a means of self stimming. </p><p></p><p>Oh, and we have called the police twice in the last month, including last sat. (details are on another thread somewhere), but I'm afraid to overuse it and it loose the effectiveness. Likewise the trips to the ER, we have done twice before as well.</p><p></p><p>Thanks to everyone for the words of support, I really need it, and appreciate it, even if some I've already tried. Lynne</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="family mum, post: 526196, member: 14457"] Okay, I'm back. Yes, we are in books and part of our diagnosis. We live in Quebec so our system is quite different as almost everything is covered by the provincial health plan but there are waits, sometimes very long ones. We have seen a 1st psychiatrist in mar and may 2011, who wrote a recommendation of AS put in his file, didn't call us just left us hanging because he doesn't treat AS/autism. We already have a Neurologist because of epilepsy who pushed us through the hospital to see another psychiatrist who works closely with neurology. Went to the meeting in oct 2011 but she was sick so we only met with her resident. ( complete waste of time). Dec 22 2011 we finally met with her. She said she agreed with 1st dr. but wanted difficult child to have autism test (min 2yr wait) and a neuro-psychiatric. evaluation - 3 or 4 month wait. next appoint was last week of feb. she upped the medications, but that it. i asked about doing the autism testing privately ( ie. pay for it ourselves) and she gave me a name of a psychologist that she had confidence in. We did that in march 2012, I literally went and picked up her report this afternoon. ( that's why I'm saying that I'm back.) Since dec. we have pushed to have a social worker assigned to us ( this is also under provincial health services) we had a 1st one as emergency measure for Dec and Jan then we switched to another one who works with children with mental deficiencies and will stay with us permanently. we have met her monthly, her job is to coordinate services but she needed the report in order to move forward to get them for us. She managed to have us meet the accessment team even before we got the report so that is done, but now we are just waiting. This week on thurs, and fri. I called at least 7 different people, incl. the 2 social workers ( both on vacation), the psychologist, the psychiatrist's office, 2 local mental health organizations and some woman who runs a social skills course in our area. I saw my GP, my psychologist, the boys' neurologist and spoke to the office of another psychologist because the neuro- psychiatric testing will finally get done nest tues. and wed.( And found this online group.) Went I went today to pick up the report I asked to meet with the 1st psychologist and asked if she could recommend a course of action if we would go privately. So I booked an appointment with her to meet with difficult child for counselling starting next sun. She will meet with husband and I independently from difficult child to offer some parenting techniques for someone with AS. And She suggested that we meet with a colleague for family counselling. (She doesn't want difficult child to feel that her loyalty are divided so she prefers not to do this herself.) This will run us around 500$/600 a week, before medications. Oh, she also said we should try to find a male psychology student to act as a kind of intervention aid/ babysitter so that husband and I can actually both leave the house at the same time. I am doing the best I know how, and in a lot of ways I think that I am doing a pretty good job pushing through the system and trying to adjust my behaviour as much as I can. yes, I know that I cannot make the goals to get privileges to be too big or to far away. While I mention the one for PS2 before, he did have other incentives to behave today that were much more immediate. ( He wanted green laces to go with the new shoes from yesterday.) Removing the PS2 was primarily due to the violent nature of the games he likes to play on it, yet it is what all the teens are playing and completely removing them will mean loosing a shared interest with his friends. (Yes, he has As, but he has 3 or 4 pretty good friends.) However, I did leave him access to both the games on the computer and the Wii which we have several games for, including some that he had just asked for at x-mas' because as Lovelyboy said, they help with boredom and are a means of self stimming. Oh, and we have called the police twice in the last month, including last sat. (details are on another thread somewhere), but I'm afraid to overuse it and it loose the effectiveness. Likewise the trips to the ER, we have done twice before as well. Thanks to everyone for the words of support, I really need it, and appreciate it, even if some I've already tried. Lynne [/QUOTE]
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