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<blockquote data-quote="rejectedmom" data-source="post: 237535" data-attributes="member: 2315"><p>My easy child 2 is 28 with Asperger's. He works and pays his own way but he still lives at home. He drives me crazy most of the time. He never lets me know when/if he is comming home after work yet asks me every time he comes in "What did you have for dinner" Which I guess is a change from his old "What's for dinner" which he asked me for a year before he finally got what I told him every time "you didn't call me so I didn't know if I should cook for you or not" Of course it took me a while and many spoiled meals before I go to the point of not cooking for him. </p><p></p><p>He has ruined the beautiful heirloom bedroom set in his room with water glasses and coffee mugs and I will have to have it refinished when?if he moves out. He never brings this vessels back down to the kitchen so once a week I have to round them up and usually will have about half a dozen. He uses three or four spoons every morning because he has to have a clean one for every cup of coffee and bowl of cereal he eats. In the evening he waits until I clean the kitchen and go to bed to eat. Then because the dishwasher is running he leaves all the dirty pots and pans and dishes he used in the sink for me to get up to in the morning. He gets up for work at three in the morning and clomps up and down the stairs with his work boots on slamming doors as he goes. He washes u p in one bathroom and leaves the toothpast in the sink and the cap off the tube and then goes into the other bathroom to shave and leaves his wiskers in the sink. He never empties the wastbasket in his room or bathroom letting the snotty tissues fall on the floor for me to clean up. He has no idea what clothes he owns because he doesn't think to open up his drawers and look. Instead he keeps buying more and then buys plastic storage containers and stacks them up in his room and under his bed untill I go through them (about twice a year) and hang things up in his closet where he can see them (Maybe) He has taken to spending his evenings at the pub spending his money there on food and drink but he fills up my cabinets and fridge with huge amounts of processed foods that I don't eat leaving me no room for the foods I do eat. So I end up shopping for my own food way more frequently than I should have to because I can only buy a little at a time. Once a month I have to go through the freezer and throw out so much stuff it makes me sick. He buys it but never eats it and when I try to tell him that he is wasting so much of his money which could be put toward a place of his own he says " I'm fine, its OK" ARRRRRRGH! </p><p></p><p>I want to scream "I am not fine and it isn't ok" but I just sigh and go to another room. I love him but....</p><p></p><p>He is a good hard working guy with alot of difficulties. He is not disrespectful towards me. He pays his rent every month on time without question. He is pleasant natured for the most part. He's ambitious and hardworking yet so overwhelmed with trying to keep his job that he is totally not getting what it means to have balance in one's life. </p><p></p><p>He is what he is and I cannot really fault him. He is doing the best he can.</p><p></p><p>Although he is drinking 4-5 beers a night; He doesn't drink in my presence and he has taken to going to the pub because I told him I was embarrassed by the number of bottels I had to put out for recycling. He doesn't drink and drive, he walks home from the pub, kisses me good night and goes to bed. Seven hours later he is up and getting ready for work again. So while I don't approve and have told him that he is probably a functioning alcholic, I can't say that his behavior is a deal breaker. He addressed my complaints in his own way without actually stopping the drinking. And while it does make me worry about him more he is of age and paying his own way. </p><p></p><p>So while he is most definately driving me crazy, I see this as possibly never ending arrangement. I want him out from under my roof but his behavior doesn't warrant eviction. Conversly, I am worried about him if he does go out on his own because he is so not tuned into this planet. -RM</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="rejectedmom, post: 237535, member: 2315"] My easy child 2 is 28 with Asperger's. He works and pays his own way but he still lives at home. He drives me crazy most of the time. He never lets me know when/if he is comming home after work yet asks me every time he comes in "What did you have for dinner" Which I guess is a change from his old "What's for dinner" which he asked me for a year before he finally got what I told him every time "you didn't call me so I didn't know if I should cook for you or not" Of course it took me a while and many spoiled meals before I go to the point of not cooking for him. He has ruined the beautiful heirloom bedroom set in his room with water glasses and coffee mugs and I will have to have it refinished when?if he moves out. He never brings this vessels back down to the kitchen so once a week I have to round them up and usually will have about half a dozen. He uses three or four spoons every morning because he has to have a clean one for every cup of coffee and bowl of cereal he eats. In the evening he waits until I clean the kitchen and go to bed to eat. Then because the dishwasher is running he leaves all the dirty pots and pans and dishes he used in the sink for me to get up to in the morning. He gets up for work at three in the morning and clomps up and down the stairs with his work boots on slamming doors as he goes. He washes u p in one bathroom and leaves the toothpast in the sink and the cap off the tube and then goes into the other bathroom to shave and leaves his wiskers in the sink. He never empties the wastbasket in his room or bathroom letting the snotty tissues fall on the floor for me to clean up. He has no idea what clothes he owns because he doesn't think to open up his drawers and look. Instead he keeps buying more and then buys plastic storage containers and stacks them up in his room and under his bed untill I go through them (about twice a year) and hang things up in his closet where he can see them (Maybe) He has taken to spending his evenings at the pub spending his money there on food and drink but he fills up my cabinets and fridge with huge amounts of processed foods that I don't eat leaving me no room for the foods I do eat. So I end up shopping for my own food way more frequently than I should have to because I can only buy a little at a time. Once a month I have to go through the freezer and throw out so much stuff it makes me sick. He buys it but never eats it and when I try to tell him that he is wasting so much of his money which could be put toward a place of his own he says " I'm fine, its OK" ARRRRRRGH! I want to scream "I am not fine and it isn't ok" but I just sigh and go to another room. I love him but.... He is a good hard working guy with alot of difficulties. He is not disrespectful towards me. He pays his rent every month on time without question. He is pleasant natured for the most part. He's ambitious and hardworking yet so overwhelmed with trying to keep his job that he is totally not getting what it means to have balance in one's life. He is what he is and I cannot really fault him. He is doing the best he can. Although he is drinking 4-5 beers a night; He doesn't drink in my presence and he has taken to going to the pub because I told him I was embarrassed by the number of bottels I had to put out for recycling. He doesn't drink and drive, he walks home from the pub, kisses me good night and goes to bed. Seven hours later he is up and getting ready for work again. So while I don't approve and have told him that he is probably a functioning alcholic, I can't say that his behavior is a deal breaker. He addressed my complaints in his own way without actually stopping the drinking. And while it does make me worry about him more he is of age and paying his own way. So while he is most definately driving me crazy, I see this as possibly never ending arrangement. I want him out from under my roof but his behavior doesn't warrant eviction. Conversly, I am worried about him if he does go out on his own because he is so not tuned into this planet. -RM [/QUOTE]
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