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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 329757" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Tawnya, </p><p> </p><p>You can't talk to Mother Theresa. She's talking to your Mom, my Dad, Both of my sons...probably scads of other people who've passed on. Death is such a mystery. It's the last great mystery isn't it? Without crossing the lines of board rules, I'm going to try to delicately to explain in my own way about the "never more than you can handle" (thing) because -well because it confuses so many people and it really can make or break you in this life. I hope the mods will understand I'm doing my best. </p><p> </p><p>See that particular verse was not meant for us. Us as people today. It's so taken out of the context that it was written for. But someone reading that book said "Oh look - you will never be given more than you can handle." Basically you eavesdropped, played post-office, read it wrong, took it out of context and applied it to your modern day life instead of understanding that it was for Paul. Not us. Him. So people today sit down and start keeping score. You have this many bad things, I have that many. You have a nice house, I have a cardboard box. You have a super kid, I have a difficult child. You have a good job, I muck stables. I have health problems, and you are a Barbie. I'm built like the Blob, and you look like Cindy Crawford. </p><p> </p><p>Once you start keeping score? Oh boy. It will be really hard to readjust your values and realize that things in your life could be tougher than others, but never wish for someone elses life - because along with their lives? You get all their problems. That's not to say that you shouldn't have goals or believe that things can get better. Envy isn't healthy. Thinking that I have an easier life here on earth all day every day while you suffer? Well, maybe I do...but if there IS any beauty in loss I think it's this ----</p><p> </p><p>YOU get things that no one else gets. You feel things that others can't begin to comprehend. YOU KNOW what it's like to hurt, to mourn, to loose, to cry, to miss, to want, to be lonely, to wish, to beg, to need, to ache, to let go, to hold on...and while all those things MAY seem like such sad things? When you come across someone else IN THIS WORLD that just can't understand how to cope? THERE IS YOU. And what would YOU do if you met them? Let them sit and cry? Let them sit and be lonely, sob, ache? Or would YOU...knowing how awful and lonely, desperate and lost it feels sit with them, hold them, talk to them, empathize with them, sympathize with them, COMFORT them? Let them know that they are NOT alone in their pain and sorrow? Because what the heck good is it to feel pain, and all the other miseries in the world if it helps no one else along the way in your life or theirs? But if you take all those pains, all those lonesome feelings, all those missing pieces in your life when you do find someone else who hurts...and say "I DO know how you feel, You are NOT forgotten, You are NOT being picked on, Your higher Power IS NOT punishing you, he didn't take your family because he hates YOU, you are NOT being given MORE than you can handle? SOME of that loss is eased in your heart...and I think in a little way each time you reach out? It brings your loved one closer to your heart and keeps them there smiling because they SEE you doing good things for others. </p><p> </p><p>I buried our adopted son this Spring, I buried another son 9 years ago. I don't understand why they're gone. I don't understand why any child goes before his parents. I think it would be a lot better place if when people died they just got to go through a set of double doors like at the Kmart and you could see them...maybe just not go shopping with them until it was your time to go. Then you could just go shopping for eternity. But things don't happen with our loved ones how we think because ....well they just don't. BUT if we take THOSE experiences and apply them and learn from them? How much greater a person we are for their lives and how much better people we would all be for helping someone else. (shrug) </p><p> </p><p>I'm not sure how loosing a Mom feels. I can't imagine. I lost my Pop and it was so painful. 11 years in February and I still cry when I think of things or hear his silly little song - Lion Sleeps Tonight by the Kingsmen. lol. I miss him. I miss my kids too. Both Steven and K's death were so violent. Steven burned alive in a car he was driving, K died as a result of a blood clot that broke loose in his lungs and went to his brain from a bullriding accident from taking blood thinners. 18 and 19 is too young. </p><p> </p><p>So I wish I could say to you - I know how you feel about your Mom, but I do not. I do know however that when I've met other Mom's in the last year who have lost their children, and I speak about my personal loss? I try very hard to be an example for them of courage, love, compassion, happiness - and dignity in remembering both of my sons so that when they meet the next person and speak about their loss? They take a little of what they saw in me with them to the next person who's hurting about their own loss. </p><p> </p><p>I hope this helps you in some small way understand that there is no black cloud over you, there is no wheel of misfortune spinning in tawnya's direction. If ANYTHING? There is a great opportunity for a lovely and wonderful, compassionate woman to speak to others about loss, surviving, and showing the world that there is a tomorrow - you are living proof. Take each day like it's a total gift from your Mom who's yelling at you saying TAWNYA - I LOVE YOU --get out and LIVE. Then do something! Then just let 'em wonder how you can smile every day. It's because you know...each day is the present you waited for yesterday. It's a gift. See? NO MATTER WHAT COMES AT YOU...It's your gift. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs & love </p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 329757, member: 4964"] Tawnya, You can't talk to Mother Theresa. She's talking to your Mom, my Dad, Both of my sons...probably scads of other people who've passed on. Death is such a mystery. It's the last great mystery isn't it? Without crossing the lines of board rules, I'm going to try to delicately to explain in my own way about the "never more than you can handle" (thing) because -well because it confuses so many people and it really can make or break you in this life. I hope the mods will understand I'm doing my best. See that particular verse was not meant for us. Us as people today. It's so taken out of the context that it was written for. But someone reading that book said "Oh look - you will never be given more than you can handle." Basically you eavesdropped, played post-office, read it wrong, took it out of context and applied it to your modern day life instead of understanding that it was for Paul. Not us. Him. So people today sit down and start keeping score. You have this many bad things, I have that many. You have a nice house, I have a cardboard box. You have a super kid, I have a difficult child. You have a good job, I muck stables. I have health problems, and you are a Barbie. I'm built like the Blob, and you look like Cindy Crawford. Once you start keeping score? Oh boy. It will be really hard to readjust your values and realize that things in your life could be tougher than others, but never wish for someone elses life - because along with their lives? You get all their problems. That's not to say that you shouldn't have goals or believe that things can get better. Envy isn't healthy. Thinking that I have an easier life here on earth all day every day while you suffer? Well, maybe I do...but if there IS any beauty in loss I think it's this ---- YOU get things that no one else gets. You feel things that others can't begin to comprehend. YOU KNOW what it's like to hurt, to mourn, to loose, to cry, to miss, to want, to be lonely, to wish, to beg, to need, to ache, to let go, to hold on...and while all those things MAY seem like such sad things? When you come across someone else IN THIS WORLD that just can't understand how to cope? THERE IS YOU. And what would YOU do if you met them? Let them sit and cry? Let them sit and be lonely, sob, ache? Or would YOU...knowing how awful and lonely, desperate and lost it feels sit with them, hold them, talk to them, empathize with them, sympathize with them, COMFORT them? Let them know that they are NOT alone in their pain and sorrow? Because what the heck good is it to feel pain, and all the other miseries in the world if it helps no one else along the way in your life or theirs? But if you take all those pains, all those lonesome feelings, all those missing pieces in your life when you do find someone else who hurts...and say "I DO know how you feel, You are NOT forgotten, You are NOT being picked on, Your higher Power IS NOT punishing you, he didn't take your family because he hates YOU, you are NOT being given MORE than you can handle? SOME of that loss is eased in your heart...and I think in a little way each time you reach out? It brings your loved one closer to your heart and keeps them there smiling because they SEE you doing good things for others. I buried our adopted son this Spring, I buried another son 9 years ago. I don't understand why they're gone. I don't understand why any child goes before his parents. I think it would be a lot better place if when people died they just got to go through a set of double doors like at the Kmart and you could see them...maybe just not go shopping with them until it was your time to go. Then you could just go shopping for eternity. But things don't happen with our loved ones how we think because ....well they just don't. BUT if we take THOSE experiences and apply them and learn from them? How much greater a person we are for their lives and how much better people we would all be for helping someone else. (shrug) I'm not sure how loosing a Mom feels. I can't imagine. I lost my Pop and it was so painful. 11 years in February and I still cry when I think of things or hear his silly little song - Lion Sleeps Tonight by the Kingsmen. lol. I miss him. I miss my kids too. Both Steven and K's death were so violent. Steven burned alive in a car he was driving, K died as a result of a blood clot that broke loose in his lungs and went to his brain from a bullriding accident from taking blood thinners. 18 and 19 is too young. So I wish I could say to you - I know how you feel about your Mom, but I do not. I do know however that when I've met other Mom's in the last year who have lost their children, and I speak about my personal loss? I try very hard to be an example for them of courage, love, compassion, happiness - and dignity in remembering both of my sons so that when they meet the next person and speak about their loss? They take a little of what they saw in me with them to the next person who's hurting about their own loss. I hope this helps you in some small way understand that there is no black cloud over you, there is no wheel of misfortune spinning in tawnya's direction. If ANYTHING? There is a great opportunity for a lovely and wonderful, compassionate woman to speak to others about loss, surviving, and showing the world that there is a tomorrow - you are living proof. Take each day like it's a total gift from your Mom who's yelling at you saying TAWNYA - I LOVE YOU --get out and LIVE. Then do something! Then just let 'em wonder how you can smile every day. It's because you know...each day is the present you waited for yesterday. It's a gift. See? NO MATTER WHAT COMES AT YOU...It's your gift. Hugs & love Star [/QUOTE]
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