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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 504243"><p>Thanks for all your ideas. I love the one about getting him a book on dumpster diving!!! However I talked to a friend of mine who told me she got some parenting advice once that told her to stay away from threats but just let consequences happen. At first I was like but I want him to know what will happen if he screws up again.... but when I thought about it I realized that no matter how I say it, it will come across as my having no faith in him... which in fact is somewhat true... but there is no way I can do this positively really. Then I went to our alanon meeting last night and we talked about coming from a place of fear and dread and instead coming from a place of hope. What I realized is I absolutely am coming from a place of fear and dread... and while I am in that place it is probably better just to keep my mouth shut. The reality is the fear of being homeless should be enough consequence to be aware of, and if it is not then knowing he will also lose grocery money won't really make any difference anyway.</p><p></p><p>So I think when I do text him that I added money to his card that I will just say I am thinking about him, trying to give him his space but would love to hear from him and leave it at that.</p><p></p><p>Thanks for all your ideas.... I am back home by the way. Had a good but tiring visit with my dad and also a good friend. I may have to go again in the next couple of weeks which just makes me oh so tired.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 504243"] Thanks for all your ideas. I love the one about getting him a book on dumpster diving!!! However I talked to a friend of mine who told me she got some parenting advice once that told her to stay away from threats but just let consequences happen. At first I was like but I want him to know what will happen if he screws up again.... but when I thought about it I realized that no matter how I say it, it will come across as my having no faith in him... which in fact is somewhat true... but there is no way I can do this positively really. Then I went to our alanon meeting last night and we talked about coming from a place of fear and dread and instead coming from a place of hope. What I realized is I absolutely am coming from a place of fear and dread... and while I am in that place it is probably better just to keep my mouth shut. The reality is the fear of being homeless should be enough consequence to be aware of, and if it is not then knowing he will also lose grocery money won't really make any difference anyway. So I think when I do text him that I added money to his card that I will just say I am thinking about him, trying to give him his space but would love to hear from him and leave it at that. Thanks for all your ideas.... I am back home by the way. Had a good but tiring visit with my dad and also a good friend. I may have to go again in the next couple of weeks which just makes me oh so tired. [/QUOTE]
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