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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 389237" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>What is the normal routine for Thanksgiving? I totally get an entire household making adjustments because difficult child is having such a difficult time. Yet something in me thinks some maintenance of norms, routines, traditions, would benefit difficult child. So if she doesn't eat? Handle it however you all are handling it day to day. Yet I think doing the same as you always would for Thanksgiving would help difficult child, in the long run even if not on that day. Also, adjustments in a home are normal and can be helpful and necessary. Yet, you all eat right? She should eat right? At special times people tend to share time as a family, over food right? Turkey is tradition, so if that is your fam's tradition, I vote go for it. Speak quietly to everyone else ahead and request nobody mention lack of eating on the day or however you want it handles for difficult child. In a offside remark let difficult child know that things are the family norm for thanksgiving and she's part of the family. The food might be enjoyed by everyone else, but the goal/reason is the same as always, spending time together as a family celebrating all that you all have to thankful for this year. </p><p>I see so many stories where an entire family stops living entirely to a point of unhealthiness and toxicity for the whole family, due to a fam members issues. That won't help difficult child. Having memories of holidays being handled the same regardless of the eating thing, in my opinion, will help difficult child. </p><p>Whatever you decide to do, enjoy your Thanksgiving. I imagine the strain is so hard on all of you right now. I hope you can all find the good in the past year for at least that day <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> .</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 389237, member: 4264"] What is the normal routine for Thanksgiving? I totally get an entire household making adjustments because difficult child is having such a difficult time. Yet something in me thinks some maintenance of norms, routines, traditions, would benefit difficult child. So if she doesn't eat? Handle it however you all are handling it day to day. Yet I think doing the same as you always would for Thanksgiving would help difficult child, in the long run even if not on that day. Also, adjustments in a home are normal and can be helpful and necessary. Yet, you all eat right? She should eat right? At special times people tend to share time as a family, over food right? Turkey is tradition, so if that is your fam's tradition, I vote go for it. Speak quietly to everyone else ahead and request nobody mention lack of eating on the day or however you want it handles for difficult child. In a offside remark let difficult child know that things are the family norm for thanksgiving and she's part of the family. The food might be enjoyed by everyone else, but the goal/reason is the same as always, spending time together as a family celebrating all that you all have to thankful for this year. I see so many stories where an entire family stops living entirely to a point of unhealthiness and toxicity for the whole family, due to a fam members issues. That won't help difficult child. Having memories of holidays being handled the same regardless of the eating thing, in my opinion, will help difficult child. Whatever you decide to do, enjoy your Thanksgiving. I imagine the strain is so hard on all of you right now. I hope you can all find the good in the past year for at least that day :) . [/QUOTE]
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