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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 389239" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">While I agree with mattsmom's general idea about not competely turning your entire routine and traditions upside down to accommodate ONE family member, I do feel you should not go to H's family's Thanksgiving dinner. I think it would be too much and believe it or not, I mostly think it would be too much for YOU. Prior to the day, you'd be worrying about it, worrying about their comments to difficult child, worrying about difficult child's reactions, what she will or won't eat, etc. Overall, I just think it's too soon and could cause difficult child to spiral backwards. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">I think going out to a nice place would be nice. Like you said, it would provide food options for difficult child while also giving easy child a nice traditional Thanksgiving family dinner. </span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: darkslateblue">As an aside, traditions are people made. You can make your own new traditions any way you like them and in whatever fashion suits your family. For example, as our girls grew older and spent less time on Christmas day playing with toys, we started the tradition of going to a matinee on Christmas afternoon. Then we'd go home, graze and munch on holiday leftovers and then play board games or have visitors for the evening. It's very nice, low key and we enjoy choosing the movie of the year. It's developed into a family tradition and it takes the stress out of choosing how or with whom to spend the day. Perhaps after your dinner out, you have friends or one or two family members you could invite over for dessert only - or join H's family for dessert only - or go to a movie - or have game night. Whatever, make it your own and enjoy it. Thanksgiving does not have to mean spending the day in a crowded relatives house surrounded by chaos. If that works for you, great, but sometimes you need to take a breather from the famliy traditions. </span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 389239, member: 2211"] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]While I agree with mattsmom's general idea about not competely turning your entire routine and traditions upside down to accommodate ONE family member, I do feel you should not go to H's family's Thanksgiving dinner. I think it would be too much and believe it or not, I mostly think it would be too much for YOU. Prior to the day, you'd be worrying about it, worrying about their comments to difficult child, worrying about difficult child's reactions, what she will or won't eat, etc. Overall, I just think it's too soon and could cause difficult child to spiral backwards. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]I think going out to a nice place would be nice. Like you said, it would provide food options for difficult child while also giving easy child a nice traditional Thanksgiving family dinner. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue][/COLOR][/SIZE] [SIZE=3][COLOR=darkslateblue]As an aside, traditions are people made. You can make your own new traditions any way you like them and in whatever fashion suits your family. For example, as our girls grew older and spent less time on Christmas day playing with toys, we started the tradition of going to a matinee on Christmas afternoon. Then we'd go home, graze and munch on holiday leftovers and then play board games or have visitors for the evening. It's very nice, low key and we enjoy choosing the movie of the year. It's developed into a family tradition and it takes the stress out of choosing how or with whom to spend the day. Perhaps after your dinner out, you have friends or one or two family members you could invite over for dessert only - or join H's family for dessert only - or go to a movie - or have game night. Whatever, make it your own and enjoy it. Thanksgiving does not have to mean spending the day in a crowded relatives house surrounded by chaos. If that works for you, great, but sometimes you need to take a breather from the famliy traditions. [/COLOR][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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