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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 490226" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Yes I am postive my energy feeds into him. but the only thing is.... It is only during his hospitalization that any bad meetings started to happened. I actually looked forward to most of our meetings and had very few conflicts. He has had this issue sice elementary school, and yes TeDo, I only tell him about the meetings if he asks or it is so early that my only choice is to drive him to school because I can't wait for the bus then leave in my car. So today I let him ride the bus but had to be ready so I could leave at the same time and so he knew I was getting dressed and it was not my volunteer day. Remember how schedule bound he is. But he is like you said, he is full of anxiety, worried they wont let him to go high school (he was worried in elem if he could go to mid school too...) this time I said to him, have you ever not been able to go to your school after a meeting? He admitted no... I said I would never surprise you with that. He said he didn't believe me so I invited him to the meeting and he said if he went he would not let anyone talk, he would interrupt and get mad at the principal so could I just do it for him. WOW, ok... He knows NOTHING about the principal and what we have been going through. But I am sure he knows how he responded from the medication problem week when he was on his bus and yelling at the principal. He knows he crossed a line and I know he apologized too the next day. But he knows. </p><p></p><p>I think a big part of why he has problems is really simple... he teacher is not in the room and the schedule is changed. The school I worked at hardly ever had meetngs during school that would take a teacher out for so long. She does this for 12 students so you can imagine the number of times they have a sub. He falls apart every time there is a sub. </p><p></p><p>That said, I did just get an email from the teacher and he had been doing well up until he wouldn't take the medications. I wonder why it is such a big power struggle. I wish they would do what I do and just put the cup down and the nurse can leave and he will just take them without any words (she has aides give medications often so that is not the problem). I think it got made a big deal of and now it is contnuing as happens with him. And as I said, he was itchy again so it probably made his ability to focus on the right ways to behave go out the window. He was like a totally different child after the soothing bath and medicine. He was fantastic with the Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker and has been truly sweet and polite all night. Even with not having earned his money for spending while out with her (he gets a dollar if he follows directions) and accepting that I will be taking him to the doctor so no bus tomorrow. So???? could be a million things... he could have held off and then finally with the physical stuff the anxiety hit.... no matter what, he can't not take medications. That is not negotiable. So tomorrow I will try the concerta again and not do the second dose that is supposed to cover evening. I will use his ritalin for that so there is not the huge overlapping dose in mid day. If we see an overall increase in aggression compared to the past three weeks that will give us the ritalin vs concerta answer. ugg it is all such a mess sometimes. But, we will work through it , we always do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 490226, member: 12886"] Yes I am postive my energy feeds into him. but the only thing is.... It is only during his hospitalization that any bad meetings started to happened. I actually looked forward to most of our meetings and had very few conflicts. He has had this issue sice elementary school, and yes TeDo, I only tell him about the meetings if he asks or it is so early that my only choice is to drive him to school because I can't wait for the bus then leave in my car. So today I let him ride the bus but had to be ready so I could leave at the same time and so he knew I was getting dressed and it was not my volunteer day. Remember how schedule bound he is. But he is like you said, he is full of anxiety, worried they wont let him to go high school (he was worried in elem if he could go to mid school too...) this time I said to him, have you ever not been able to go to your school after a meeting? He admitted no... I said I would never surprise you with that. He said he didn't believe me so I invited him to the meeting and he said if he went he would not let anyone talk, he would interrupt and get mad at the principal so could I just do it for him. WOW, ok... He knows NOTHING about the principal and what we have been going through. But I am sure he knows how he responded from the medication problem week when he was on his bus and yelling at the principal. He knows he crossed a line and I know he apologized too the next day. But he knows. I think a big part of why he has problems is really simple... he teacher is not in the room and the schedule is changed. The school I worked at hardly ever had meetngs during school that would take a teacher out for so long. She does this for 12 students so you can imagine the number of times they have a sub. He falls apart every time there is a sub. That said, I did just get an email from the teacher and he had been doing well up until he wouldn't take the medications. I wonder why it is such a big power struggle. I wish they would do what I do and just put the cup down and the nurse can leave and he will just take them without any words (she has aides give medications often so that is not the problem). I think it got made a big deal of and now it is contnuing as happens with him. And as I said, he was itchy again so it probably made his ability to focus on the right ways to behave go out the window. He was like a totally different child after the soothing bath and medicine. He was fantastic with the Integrated Listening Systems (ILS) worker and has been truly sweet and polite all night. Even with not having earned his money for spending while out with her (he gets a dollar if he follows directions) and accepting that I will be taking him to the doctor so no bus tomorrow. So???? could be a million things... he could have held off and then finally with the physical stuff the anxiety hit.... no matter what, he can't not take medications. That is not negotiable. So tomorrow I will try the concerta again and not do the second dose that is supposed to cover evening. I will use his ritalin for that so there is not the huge overlapping dose in mid day. If we see an overall increase in aggression compared to the past three weeks that will give us the ritalin vs concerta answer. ugg it is all such a mess sometimes. But, we will work through it , we always do. [/QUOTE]
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