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IEP Meeting tomorrow with DevPed - so unprepared
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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 271500" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>The meeting went fairly well. I did not get your advice til late, Marg, but that's much what I did.</p><p> </p><p>in my humble opinion, the school made a butt of themselves - they marched in and said they wanted the doctor aware of what was going on and proceeded to inform her of things she already knew, then set up a scenario where difficult child ends up in the safe room tantrumming and making threats, and said "what do we do?". doctor looked at me and said "Ah. The million dollar question. If we had that answer, we wouldn't be sitting here."</p><p> </p><p>Other "brilliant" statements made were how to punish him, what consequences should he have, what can he control and what can he not control. doctor didn't tell them anything I haven't already, and for punishment and consequence, she said if he is in the midst of fight or flight, he is not accountable for anything he says or does, and it is their job to avoid getting him to the point of fight or flight if they really want to make a difference with him.</p><p> </p><p>They also asked the doctor how she "managed" difficult child's case - how often he was seen in clinic, etc. When she said only 3-4 times a year, pretty boy went after that - how can you be on top of the situation...blah blah blah. doctor came back quickly letting them know that I have her email and our email contact is frequent. She held up the school behavior logs to show them she had even the most recent logs, and explained what a clinic visit looks like (stats, medication management, and talking in code around difficult child). She held up difficult child's file and said it was one of their thickest. She said I was one of the better parents they work with and I do a great job advocating for my child.</p><p> </p><p>MWM, I agreed to the meeting and set it up, knowing full well the doctor is 300&#37; behind me. In the end, I think it turned out very good, tho probably a waste of time cause really all that was said was the same thing that was said back in January. Just a different speaker.</p><p> </p><p>There's a new person on board - the district consultant who did the FBA. She will be handling difficult child's case next year, and she seems to have a clue. </p><p> </p><p>For as angry as I am and can get at the school over all this, they are like many of the desperate parents that show up here. They are like I was in the beginning. They don't understand and they don't know what to do. Its not for lack of caring, and I can only fault them so far for their inability to grasp concepts that I can still remember being so foreign to me. I hope yesterday's meeting helped them to understand that more.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 271500, member: 1848"] The meeting went fairly well. I did not get your advice til late, Marg, but that's much what I did. in my humble opinion, the school made a butt of themselves - they marched in and said they wanted the doctor aware of what was going on and proceeded to inform her of things she already knew, then set up a scenario where difficult child ends up in the safe room tantrumming and making threats, and said "what do we do?". doctor looked at me and said "Ah. The million dollar question. If we had that answer, we wouldn't be sitting here." Other "brilliant" statements made were how to punish him, what consequences should he have, what can he control and what can he not control. doctor didn't tell them anything I haven't already, and for punishment and consequence, she said if he is in the midst of fight or flight, he is not accountable for anything he says or does, and it is their job to avoid getting him to the point of fight or flight if they really want to make a difference with him. They also asked the doctor how she "managed" difficult child's case - how often he was seen in clinic, etc. When she said only 3-4 times a year, pretty boy went after that - how can you be on top of the situation...blah blah blah. doctor came back quickly letting them know that I have her email and our email contact is frequent. She held up the school behavior logs to show them she had even the most recent logs, and explained what a clinic visit looks like (stats, medication management, and talking in code around difficult child). She held up difficult child's file and said it was one of their thickest. She said I was one of the better parents they work with and I do a great job advocating for my child. MWM, I agreed to the meeting and set it up, knowing full well the doctor is 300% behind me. In the end, I think it turned out very good, tho probably a waste of time cause really all that was said was the same thing that was said back in January. Just a different speaker. There's a new person on board - the district consultant who did the FBA. She will be handling difficult child's case next year, and she seems to have a clue. For as angry as I am and can get at the school over all this, they are like many of the desperate parents that show up here. They are like I was in the beginning. They don't understand and they don't know what to do. Its not for lack of caring, and I can only fault them so far for their inability to grasp concepts that I can still remember being so foreign to me. I hope yesterday's meeting helped them to understand that more. [/QUOTE]
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