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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 382567" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Shari, this sounds to me like a misunderstanding that you have now resolved. </p><p></p><p>You were the person on the spot, you had the permission to make what changes were needed and frankly had to be made, given the super's involvement which caused major change.</p><p></p><p>Adv A didn't have the full story when she was mad at you; given how things had happened, it would have seemed to her initially that you had thrown their help and advice back in their faces, after Av B put in a lot of work on a letter that you never sent. But once she knew the story, she relaxed. This is how these things happen. They weren't there when you needed them to be, but due to their previous help, plus due to you not being incompetent either in these matters, you did well. And looking over it, I get the feeling that they agree.</p><p></p><p>If you're still concerned, write the advocates a follow-up letter (or email) basically saying, "I respect the input from both of you, it has been invaluable in getting Wee the help we have managed, so far. It still is not right, but we are at the moment better off than before. Things are still shaky, but we have to give the school just a little more rope so they can't say we did not give them every chance to do things properly. As always I value your input and miss it when you are unavailable."</p><p></p><p>You know the drill. They probably just need reminding. And in this sort of advocacy, sometimes feathers get ruffled and it's no big deal, especially if they can be soothed down again quickly.</p><p>I can imagine Adv B was thinking, "OK, now we have them on toast, we're ready for DP at last," then the super had a brilliant compromise and, frankly, it would not look good to have ignored such options. When you've tried them (and now superB principal has destroyed it so soon) it becomes more and more apparent that when you do go to DP (and I do believe this is inevitable, thanks to superB principal) you will have clearly been doing your utmost to work with the school, right down the line.</p><p></p><p>I share the advocates' frustration, but I do get why you chose the super's option. I would have too.</p><p></p><p>But that principal! It sounds to me like she went down there expressly to forbid Wee going to special recess. What a cow! Sorry, bovines are lovely creatures, nothing like this woman... words fail me. But it does seem clear to me, her main agenda is to 'punish' Wee. And you. Certainly, allowing no privileges or favours. Nasty person! There, that's better.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 382567, member: 1991"] Shari, this sounds to me like a misunderstanding that you have now resolved. You were the person on the spot, you had the permission to make what changes were needed and frankly had to be made, given the super's involvement which caused major change. Adv A didn't have the full story when she was mad at you; given how things had happened, it would have seemed to her initially that you had thrown their help and advice back in their faces, after Av B put in a lot of work on a letter that you never sent. But once she knew the story, she relaxed. This is how these things happen. They weren't there when you needed them to be, but due to their previous help, plus due to you not being incompetent either in these matters, you did well. And looking over it, I get the feeling that they agree. If you're still concerned, write the advocates a follow-up letter (or email) basically saying, "I respect the input from both of you, it has been invaluable in getting Wee the help we have managed, so far. It still is not right, but we are at the moment better off than before. Things are still shaky, but we have to give the school just a little more rope so they can't say we did not give them every chance to do things properly. As always I value your input and miss it when you are unavailable." You know the drill. They probably just need reminding. And in this sort of advocacy, sometimes feathers get ruffled and it's no big deal, especially if they can be soothed down again quickly. I can imagine Adv B was thinking, "OK, now we have them on toast, we're ready for DP at last," then the super had a brilliant compromise and, frankly, it would not look good to have ignored such options. When you've tried them (and now superB principal has destroyed it so soon) it becomes more and more apparent that when you do go to DP (and I do believe this is inevitable, thanks to superB principal) you will have clearly been doing your utmost to work with the school, right down the line. I share the advocates' frustration, but I do get why you chose the super's option. I would have too. But that principal! It sounds to me like she went down there expressly to forbid Wee going to special recess. What a cow! Sorry, bovines are lovely creatures, nothing like this woman... words fail me. But it does seem clear to me, her main agenda is to 'punish' Wee. And you. Certainly, allowing no privileges or favours. Nasty person! There, that's better. Marg [/QUOTE]
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