Chickpea, my heart goes out to you. So many good points and resources in this thread. Copa is spot on. The suicide threats are always difficult. My Difficult Child had a plan and threatened, and she manipulated the police (she raged at me with a coat rack full of cloths and the hot line person called the police). The mental health person they sent let my Difficult Child manipulate her to. That's when I saw how woefully inadequate our mental health care is. I honestly think if they could have taken her in right then, she wouldn't be resisting mental health care now. Anyway, my point is, we have no control.
From what you have shared, I think a reasonable person would conclude your daughter is not fit to care for her child. She's demonstrated she is incapable of putting her childs need first.
Whatever you decide we are here to support your decision. Just dont take threats lightly, she is also impaired. My therapist told be to never be part of an intervention again.
In healing
