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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 381529" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>SLSH--</p><p> </p><p>Whew! I am right there with ya!</p><p> </p><p>Here's the thing I have noticed with girls (especially girls) these days in school. As early as 5th or 6th grade - these girls are looking for "boyfriends"...and there is a lot of pressure going on at school to make sure that every girl and every boy is "paired up" with somebody. The kids who don't get a boyfriend/girlfriend are teased for being "gay". No boyfriend? o you're a les-bo. No girlfriend? o you're gay.</p><p> </p><p>It's definitely scary!</p><p> </p><p>So you are fighting not only the expected problem of boys "sniffing around" - but you're also fighting the incredible peer pressure to have a boyfriend at her age...even if the boyfriend is just to avoid the horrible teasing about being a probable lesbian.</p><p> </p><p>My feeling is if you strictly forbid this - Diva is going to get herself a boyfriend behind your back.</p><p> </p><p>Safer route - why not make a rule "No dating <em>alone</em> until age 15 - prior to that, all dates MUST be chaperoned by Mom and Dad." Invite the young men in question to dinner....or to church....or roller-skating. Anything that allows her to have the "boyfriend", but doesn't allow her to get into any of the situations you are clearly envisioning as unwanted at this age.</p><p> </p><p>(Just FYI - I know a woman who decided to homeschool her daughter for this very reason....her daughter was experiencing all this teasing and pressuer to get a boyfriend - at age 10!!!! Mom decided to gt her out of that public school setting...and her daughter has been happier, healthier and more confident ever since. That young lady is now 14 years old -gorgeous! Could easily pass for older...but has not had a boyfriend and has no plans to get one until she is a little older. I'm not suggesting that homeschool is the solution - just that the pressure these girls are under is incredible.)</p><p> </p><p>Good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 381529, member: 6546"] SLSH-- Whew! I am right there with ya! Here's the thing I have noticed with girls (especially girls) these days in school. As early as 5th or 6th grade - these girls are looking for "boyfriends"...and there is a lot of pressure going on at school to make sure that every girl and every boy is "paired up" with somebody. The kids who don't get a boyfriend/girlfriend are teased for being "gay". No boyfriend? o you're a les-bo. No girlfriend? o you're gay. It's definitely scary! So you are fighting not only the expected problem of boys "sniffing around" - but you're also fighting the incredible peer pressure to have a boyfriend at her age...even if the boyfriend is just to avoid the horrible teasing about being a probable lesbian. My feeling is if you strictly forbid this - Diva is going to get herself a boyfriend behind your back. Safer route - why not make a rule "No dating [I]alone[/I] until age 15 - prior to that, all dates MUST be chaperoned by Mom and Dad." Invite the young men in question to dinner....or to church....or roller-skating. Anything that allows her to have the "boyfriend", but doesn't allow her to get into any of the situations you are clearly envisioning as unwanted at this age. (Just FYI - I know a woman who decided to homeschool her daughter for this very reason....her daughter was experiencing all this teasing and pressuer to get a boyfriend - at age 10!!!! Mom decided to gt her out of that public school setting...and her daughter has been happier, healthier and more confident ever since. That young lady is now 14 years old -gorgeous! Could easily pass for older...but has not had a boyfriend and has no plans to get one until she is a little older. I'm not suggesting that homeschool is the solution - just that the pressure these girls are under is incredible.) Good luck! [/QUOTE]
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