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<blockquote data-quote="AnnieO" data-source="post: 381554" data-attributes="member: 6705"><p>I agree with a lot of what's been said. Heaven knows we made some mistakes with Onyxx and probably still are. A couple of things we ran into were the following of rules - and doing it her way, anyway. So unless you can see her bedroom from the living room (or wherever you are), keep this rule: she <em>may</em> show boyfriend her room. She has 3 minutes in which to do it, with the door open.</p><p> </p><p>Too strict doesn't work.</p><p> </p><p>Group outings are good. WITH a parent chaperone!</p><p> </p><p>Due to all kinds of garbage, we now only allow sleepovers if we have the parents' telephone number. And we DO call. Almost every time. Onyxx discovered the one time she tried to get around that, suddenly a friend of ours was there to give her and M a ride to M's house... because M's mom didn't know about it - and neither did M. Hee hee!</p><p> </p><p>We <em>do</em> take away the cell phone when she's grounded. But that's a known thing - everything is taken. Computer, TV, phone, outings, everything. Still, that's pretty major.</p><p> </p><p>For instance - she has been making late night calls (between 11 PM and 4 AM) on school nights, which is against house rules (we set these in like 2006). So the house phone is off limits to her totally for a week, goes to bed with me at night for a month. Her cell? Is blocked between 11 PM and 6 AM. She understands. She's not happy, but she's not raging... Whew.</p><p> </p><p>Late for school because friend ran out of gas? Extra day riding the bus. Easy, obvious.</p><p> </p><p>But then, I am pretty sure that Miss Onyxx is getting into trouble anyway... Just a few hints here and there, like the overnight at M's...</p><p> </p><p>You can't sit on them forever. But you can discuss reasonable compromises.</p><p> </p><p>Lastly - GOOD LUCK!!!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AnnieO, post: 381554, member: 6705"] I agree with a lot of what's been said. Heaven knows we made some mistakes with Onyxx and probably still are. A couple of things we ran into were the following of rules - and doing it her way, anyway. So unless you can see her bedroom from the living room (or wherever you are), keep this rule: she [I]may[/I] show boyfriend her room. She has 3 minutes in which to do it, with the door open. Too strict doesn't work. Group outings are good. WITH a parent chaperone! Due to all kinds of garbage, we now only allow sleepovers if we have the parents' telephone number. And we DO call. Almost every time. Onyxx discovered the one time she tried to get around that, suddenly a friend of ours was there to give her and M a ride to M's house... because M's mom didn't know about it - and neither did M. Hee hee! We [I]do[/I] take away the cell phone when she's grounded. But that's a known thing - everything is taken. Computer, TV, phone, outings, everything. Still, that's pretty major. For instance - she has been making late night calls (between 11 PM and 4 AM) on school nights, which is against house rules (we set these in like 2006). So the house phone is off limits to her totally for a week, goes to bed with me at night for a month. Her cell? Is blocked between 11 PM and 6 AM. She understands. She's not happy, but she's not raging... Whew. Late for school because friend ran out of gas? Extra day riding the bus. Easy, obvious. But then, I am pretty sure that Miss Onyxx is getting into trouble anyway... Just a few hints here and there, like the overnight at M's... You can't sit on them forever. But you can discuss reasonable compromises. Lastly - GOOD LUCK!!!!! [/QUOTE]
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