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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 705624" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I have a normal relationship with three of my kids. We have fun together. Being normal adults though they hAve their own lives and significant others. I still need to focus on myself and my husband because normal adult kids don't need or ask for things nor live with you until they are thirty. They work hard and get tired, like us. And that's good. I'm proud of them.</p><p></p><p>In the end all of us need to live our own lives. Nothing normal grown kids hate more than controlling, overly intrusive parents. They like us to be happy and to approve of them, but not preach to them or drop by every day. I am very mindful not to be a pushy mom and I don't demand their time. But we are close anyway. Just not enmeshed.</p><p></p><p>So we all come to a place where we have to let go and live our own best lives. We can not ever live for our adult kids, thriving or otherwise. It is best to embrace other roles besides parent as our once little ones grow into adults. Parenting can not be our only identity orbwe will drive our adult children crazy. They are happy seeing us busy and fulfilled.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 705624, member: 1550"] I have a normal relationship with three of my kids. We have fun together. Being normal adults though they hAve their own lives and significant others. I still need to focus on myself and my husband because normal adult kids don't need or ask for things nor live with you until they are thirty. They work hard and get tired, like us. And that's good. I'm proud of them. In the end all of us need to live our own lives. Nothing normal grown kids hate more than controlling, overly intrusive parents. They like us to be happy and to approve of them, but not preach to them or drop by every day. I am very mindful not to be a pushy mom and I don't demand their time. But we are close anyway. Just not enmeshed. So we all come to a place where we have to let go and live our own best lives. We can not ever live for our adult kids, thriving or otherwise. It is best to embrace other roles besides parent as our once little ones grow into adults. Parenting can not be our only identity orbwe will drive our adult children crazy. They are happy seeing us busy and fulfilled. [/QUOTE]
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