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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 706327" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>What a sad sad story. First off, so glad you wrote here. You need help and relief. Take extra care of yourself PRONTO!</p><p>Ya know, I've done a little research on narcissism, and only children, <strong>males</strong> are the most common of the lot, and this would increase slightly if they are good looking. Does he happen to be very good looking as well?</p><p>I read two of your posts, and will check as soon as I can if there is a third or if you add more later.</p><p>Is there any mental illness in your family as well?</p><p>Then, throw in the drug abuse!!! Is he actively using? What drugs that you are aware of?</p><p>I'm VERY GLAD to read you are planning on going to therapy. It sounds like you need the support and if you could get your husband to at least agree to a few sessions of family therapy that would be great. Not necessarily with the same therapist.</p><p>Also, there are very good support groups. Family Anonymous is very good and might be ideal for you. NOt just for support, but to find out what resources are available in your community.</p><p>I went to one or two group meetings and thought it excellent, although I didn't fit in ideally because I noticed that most of the group had adult children who were using drugs and were mentally ill or had a personality disorder. So, I would say a dual diagnosis. Drugs + x. (Our daughter is not into drugs ....crossing myself here).</p><p>Will your son consider going to a therapist? A psychiatrist? He might benefit from prescription medication of some kind.</p><p>When he is voilent or threatening toward you, I would call the police ASAP and consider seeing if you can put him in some sort of mental health facility. In my area of the country (are you in the US?) it is called a Baker Act. A three day "hold" in a mental health facility if someone is a danger to himself or others.</p><p>IN fact, when you call the police, you might say that your son is acting threatening, you are afraid, he seems very unstable and you need someone ASAP, but if they happen to have someone trained with mentally ill people, to send someone with this training to the house.</p><p>I would consult with an attorney about your legal rights re: having him evicted, especially if he makes zero progress in terms of seeing a therapist, finding a job, getting on medication and stopping drug use.</p><p>The probability of this is just not high at all...so please take steps forward to protect yourself ....therapy, counseling, advice of an attorney, advice of the police, Baker Act as needed, Family Anonymous meetings, police , etc. And the little things....get a pedicure...etc. But take action. Do not let this pass.<strong> It is dangerous and UNACCEPTABLE....and you are NOT a failure!</strong></p><p><strong></strong></p><p><strong>ps Just saw the little post re: getting your son into therapy and possibly serving him a thirty day notice if he refuses. A wonderful first step. Stick to your guns. Again, this stuff is dangerous, unacceptable and you are NOT a failure!</strong></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 706327, member: 4152"] What a sad sad story. First off, so glad you wrote here. You need help and relief. Take extra care of yourself PRONTO! Ya know, I've done a little research on narcissism, and only children, [B]males[/B] are the most common of the lot, and this would increase slightly if they are good looking. Does he happen to be very good looking as well? I read two of your posts, and will check as soon as I can if there is a third or if you add more later. Is there any mental illness in your family as well? Then, throw in the drug abuse!!! Is he actively using? What drugs that you are aware of? I'm VERY GLAD to read you are planning on going to therapy. It sounds like you need the support and if you could get your husband to at least agree to a few sessions of family therapy that would be great. Not necessarily with the same therapist. Also, there are very good support groups. Family Anonymous is very good and might be ideal for you. NOt just for support, but to find out what resources are available in your community. I went to one or two group meetings and thought it excellent, although I didn't fit in ideally because I noticed that most of the group had adult children who were using drugs and were mentally ill or had a personality disorder. So, I would say a dual diagnosis. Drugs + x. (Our daughter is not into drugs ....crossing myself here). Will your son consider going to a therapist? A psychiatrist? He might benefit from prescription medication of some kind. When he is voilent or threatening toward you, I would call the police ASAP and consider seeing if you can put him in some sort of mental health facility. In my area of the country (are you in the US?) it is called a Baker Act. A three day "hold" in a mental health facility if someone is a danger to himself or others. IN fact, when you call the police, you might say that your son is acting threatening, you are afraid, he seems very unstable and you need someone ASAP, but if they happen to have someone trained with mentally ill people, to send someone with this training to the house. I would consult with an attorney about your legal rights re: having him evicted, especially if he makes zero progress in terms of seeing a therapist, finding a job, getting on medication and stopping drug use. The probability of this is just not high at all...so please take steps forward to protect yourself ....therapy, counseling, advice of an attorney, advice of the police, Baker Act as needed, Family Anonymous meetings, police , etc. And the little things....get a pedicure...etc. But take action. Do not let this pass.[B] It is dangerous and UNACCEPTABLE....and you are NOT a failure! ps Just saw the little post re: getting your son into therapy and possibly serving him a thirty day notice if he refuses. A wonderful first step. Stick to your guns. Again, this stuff is dangerous, unacceptable and you are NOT a failure![/B] [/QUOTE]
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