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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 184960" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I am so very sorry she is dragging you through this again. You have worked so HARD to teach her how to handle her illness.</p><p> </p><p>Her refusal to handle her illness as an adult should result in her not being rewarded with Mom's time and emotions and stress adn $$. In her more stable times you showed her what she needed to do. If she isn't willing, you have to put yourself first at times.</p><p> </p><p>If you re having strong PTSD reactions, this is your BODY and PSYCHE telling you that you are on overload. In the REd Zone yourself. </p><p> </p><p>You have raised her to adulthood. It is time to pay attention when your body tells you it can't handle any more. </p><p> </p><p>Enjoy your night out, your 2 drinks, your time with friends.</p><p> </p><p>It is what your body, mind and psyche need. Pamper yourself tomorrow. Exercise. Take your OWN medications, if you take them.</p><p> </p><p>If she is truly despondent her boyfriend will call 911, or she will. Then they will likely contact you. You can deal with that, then. By going to the hospital, by sending flowers and a card, or by simply saying that you hope she makes wiser choices in the future and you love her. All of these are open to you. </p><p> </p><p>Detachment is hard, isn't it? I am so sorry.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 184960, member: 1233"] I am so very sorry she is dragging you through this again. You have worked so HARD to teach her how to handle her illness. Her refusal to handle her illness as an adult should result in her not being rewarded with Mom's time and emotions and stress adn $$. In her more stable times you showed her what she needed to do. If she isn't willing, you have to put yourself first at times. If you re having strong PTSD reactions, this is your BODY and PSYCHE telling you that you are on overload. In the REd Zone yourself. You have raised her to adulthood. It is time to pay attention when your body tells you it can't handle any more. Enjoy your night out, your 2 drinks, your time with friends. It is what your body, mind and psyche need. Pamper yourself tomorrow. Exercise. Take your OWN medications, if you take them. If she is truly despondent her boyfriend will call 911, or she will. Then they will likely contact you. You can deal with that, then. By going to the hospital, by sending flowers and a card, or by simply saying that you hope she makes wiser choices in the future and you love her. All of these are open to you. Detachment is hard, isn't it? I am so sorry. [/QUOTE]
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