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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 448716"><p>Hi again....I'm so sorry that things were doing well, but now are very difficult again. It seems we rarely get off of this rollercoaster...also seems your adult child is at the helm of the roller coaster.</p><p>You reported that she ended up being "kicked out of where she was living and had no place to go so we allowed her to move back in "temporarily" until she figured out what to do next." Why was she "kicked out?" She had/has a great job opportunity and now she has put that in jeopardy. Why? Because she stole from you, wrecked the house, threatened to kill herself and who knows what else.....Is she sabotaging herself? I'm not sure what the right answer (s) are really. No one would fault you whatever you decide to do. Although deeply conflicted, I might not press charges and that is ONLY because she has a job in place. But that is where it ends. I would not be inclined to help her out with money or a place to stay, etc. Perhaps she can stay with a friend. Let her suffer the consequences. If she loses the job, that is ashame, but it is what it is. I do hope that she is seeing a counselor. I would make FEW exceptions when it comes to paying for things for a difficult child who is over 21 and <u>repeatedly</u> messes up opportunities. The two exceptions are: paying for counseling and paying for birthcontrol.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 448716"] Hi again....I'm so sorry that things were doing well, but now are very difficult again. It seems we rarely get off of this rollercoaster...also seems your adult child is at the helm of the roller coaster. You reported that she ended up being "kicked out of where she was living and had no place to go so we allowed her to move back in "temporarily" until she figured out what to do next." Why was she "kicked out?" She had/has a great job opportunity and now she has put that in jeopardy. Why? Because she stole from you, wrecked the house, threatened to kill herself and who knows what else.....Is she sabotaging herself? I'm not sure what the right answer (s) are really. No one would fault you whatever you decide to do. Although deeply conflicted, I might not press charges and that is ONLY because she has a job in place. But that is where it ends. I would not be inclined to help her out with money or a place to stay, etc. Perhaps she can stay with a friend. Let her suffer the consequences. If she loses the job, that is ashame, but it is what it is. I do hope that she is seeing a counselor. I would make FEW exceptions when it comes to paying for things for a difficult child who is over 21 and [U]repeatedly[/U] messes up opportunities. The two exceptions are: paying for counseling and paying for birthcontrol. [/QUOTE]
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