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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 448832" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I think you need to check your state laws. Here, stealing (theft) is only a felony if 1) it's over a certain amount of money and less than $100 wouldn't be enough, 2) it was robbed from a person's body - as in when difficult child robbed money from my pockets while I was sleeping, or 3) a weapon was used. Maybe there is a different classification if it was checks that were stolen but as much as my son has done, I've never heard that it would make any difference so it might not be a felony.</p><p></p><p>But my real question is- why does that matter? I understand why it matters to you but honestly, that sounds pretty enabling to me if it's going to make the difference between whether or not you report her. </p><p></p><p>Would you really trust her and feel comfortable writing this off and letting it go and her continuing to live with you under some pretense that "now" she'll change? </p><p></p><p>Maybe your daughter is different than my son but I finally figured out that with my difficult child, he was going to get worse until I drew the line in the sand. A real line. Not a warning and not a different approach that really did nothing more than allow things to continue. When I read the circumstances that you aloowed her back to live with you, then read that the minute you are gone from the house what she's doing, then the police/window issue, then the stolen checks....and you are concerned about turning her in because it might be a felony? And if it is and you don't turn her in- then what? You can advocate for them to reduce it to a misdemeanor. The next victim might not be so kind.</p><p></p><p>I'm sure my reply sounds harsh but it's not because I don't feel your pain. It's because my son eventually was robbing me with a knife and I, at some point, had to wake up and realize where this was going to lead HIM (not my mommy feelings) if I didn't draw a line and stop it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 448832, member: 3699"] I think you need to check your state laws. Here, stealing (theft) is only a felony if 1) it's over a certain amount of money and less than $100 wouldn't be enough, 2) it was robbed from a person's body - as in when difficult child robbed money from my pockets while I was sleeping, or 3) a weapon was used. Maybe there is a different classification if it was checks that were stolen but as much as my son has done, I've never heard that it would make any difference so it might not be a felony. But my real question is- why does that matter? I understand why it matters to you but honestly, that sounds pretty enabling to me if it's going to make the difference between whether or not you report her. Would you really trust her and feel comfortable writing this off and letting it go and her continuing to live with you under some pretense that "now" she'll change? Maybe your daughter is different than my son but I finally figured out that with my difficult child, he was going to get worse until I drew the line in the sand. A real line. Not a warning and not a different approach that really did nothing more than allow things to continue. When I read the circumstances that you aloowed her back to live with you, then read that the minute you are gone from the house what she's doing, then the police/window issue, then the stolen checks....and you are concerned about turning her in because it might be a felony? And if it is and you don't turn her in- then what? You can advocate for them to reduce it to a misdemeanor. The next victim might not be so kind. I'm sure my reply sounds harsh but it's not because I don't feel your pain. It's because my son eventually was robbing me with a knife and I, at some point, had to wake up and realize where this was going to lead HIM (not my mommy feelings) if I didn't draw a line and stop it. [/QUOTE]
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