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<blockquote data-quote="Kathy813" data-source="post: 449145" data-attributes="member: 1967"><p>Nomad, private therapy is expensive and difficult child doesn't have insurance. She has aged out of our insurance plan and gets her mental health care and medications through a free county program. They do have group therapy sessions but difficult child has never wanted to attend them.</p><p></p><p>I also have to admit that I don't have great hopes in therapy anymore. She has spent years in therapy on and off and it never seemed to help.</p><p></p><p>Fran, I think you hit on what I was trying to say about whether we would react the same it if was a physical disability that would keep difficult child from being independent. At this point, I am not sure that just throwing her out and cutting her off would be a good solution. The two months that she spent here while we were home were great. She wasn't drinking or partying and she was like a different person.</p><p></p><p>I'm seeing that drinking is more of an issue than I realized. I think your description about it magnifying the underlying disorders was spot on. She told me that she wasn't able to do welll in her college classes because she was drinking (and wasn't living at home at that time). She did well here until we left and she started drinking heavily. husband and I were wondering if doing what you suggest about the strict rules and perhaps requiring her to attend AA meetings would help. I know that she has to want to change but, like another poster said, just hearing other people's stories might be an eye opener for her.</p><p></p><p>She is still planning to start her job which is a good thing. difficult child of the past would have been threatening to throw that away, too, in a fit of pique. </p><p></p><p>Thank you, Fran, for saying that we had the right to take our dream vacation. I was actually letting myself feel guilty about going after what happened since she seemed to be doing so well before we left. </p><p></p><p>To answer your question about easy child, she is doing great! She graduated from college last May with a 3.7 GPA and was offered a job teaching high school math before she even graduated! She will be teaching 11th grade math and be an assistant varsity softball coach. She had played against this school when she was in high school and the coaches remembered her and were really excited about getting a pitching coach. She starts next week. She has already found an apartment and moved out. easy child also has made up an Excel spreadsheet with a budget and plans to save $500 a month. How can she be related to my difficult child?</p><p></p><p>Janet, thanks for your offer. Maybe you can help me understand how she thinks. I'm still shaking my head about her dragging out trophies from 10 years ago.</p><p></p><p>Right now, she is supposed to be looking for a place to rent. We'll see if she does anything or not.</p><p></p><p>~Kathy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Kathy813, post: 449145, member: 1967"] Nomad, private therapy is expensive and difficult child doesn't have insurance. She has aged out of our insurance plan and gets her mental health care and medications through a free county program. They do have group therapy sessions but difficult child has never wanted to attend them. I also have to admit that I don't have great hopes in therapy anymore. She has spent years in therapy on and off and it never seemed to help. Fran, I think you hit on what I was trying to say about whether we would react the same it if was a physical disability that would keep difficult child from being independent. At this point, I am not sure that just throwing her out and cutting her off would be a good solution. The two months that she spent here while we were home were great. She wasn't drinking or partying and she was like a different person. I'm seeing that drinking is more of an issue than I realized. I think your description about it magnifying the underlying disorders was spot on. She told me that she wasn't able to do welll in her college classes because she was drinking (and wasn't living at home at that time). She did well here until we left and she started drinking heavily. husband and I were wondering if doing what you suggest about the strict rules and perhaps requiring her to attend AA meetings would help. I know that she has to want to change but, like another poster said, just hearing other people's stories might be an eye opener for her. She is still planning to start her job which is a good thing. difficult child of the past would have been threatening to throw that away, too, in a fit of pique. Thank you, Fran, for saying that we had the right to take our dream vacation. I was actually letting myself feel guilty about going after what happened since she seemed to be doing so well before we left. To answer your question about easy child, she is doing great! She graduated from college last May with a 3.7 GPA and was offered a job teaching high school math before she even graduated! She will be teaching 11th grade math and be an assistant varsity softball coach. She had played against this school when she was in high school and the coaches remembered her and were really excited about getting a pitching coach. She starts next week. She has already found an apartment and moved out. easy child also has made up an Excel spreadsheet with a budget and plans to save $500 a month. How can she be related to my difficult child? Janet, thanks for your offer. Maybe you can help me understand how she thinks. I'm still shaking my head about her dragging out trophies from 10 years ago. Right now, she is supposed to be looking for a place to rent. We'll see if she does anything or not. ~Kathy [/QUOTE]
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