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<blockquote data-quote="DarkwingPsyduck" data-source="post: 694061" data-attributes="member: 20267"><p>I am happy to hear that there is some significant improvement, but I am not so sure about this "40%" business. While it may very well be accurate, it seems to set a precedence where he can skate by on SOME of your conditions. I realize that is not what you have in mind, I am just pointing it out for the benefit of others. It's kinda like addiction recovery. You can't be 40% recovered, 1% recovered, 99% recovered, or even 100% recovered. You are either recovering, or you are not. The moment we allow ourselves to think that we are 100% recovered is the moment we stop working on it. As if the problem has just been cured for good, and vanished, never to be thought of again. An addict is either recovering, or not recovering. No being recovered, or kinda recovering. The same should go for your conditions. Remember, there really is no condition you could set that would be unreasonable. Unless you're keeping him there at gun point, he can walk out the front door at any moment if he likes. He is, after all, an adult. If he wants to remain there, he must follow the rules. And hopefully understands that those conditions are for HIS benefit, not just your own. </p><p></p><p>I truly hope he realizes just how fortunate he is. He has a hell of a lot more than I have (or ever had). And I know people with less even than I have. He needs to realize that, and appreciate it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DarkwingPsyduck, post: 694061, member: 20267"] I am happy to hear that there is some significant improvement, but I am not so sure about this "40%" business. While it may very well be accurate, it seems to set a precedence where he can skate by on SOME of your conditions. I realize that is not what you have in mind, I am just pointing it out for the benefit of others. It's kinda like addiction recovery. You can't be 40% recovered, 1% recovered, 99% recovered, or even 100% recovered. You are either recovering, or you are not. The moment we allow ourselves to think that we are 100% recovered is the moment we stop working on it. As if the problem has just been cured for good, and vanished, never to be thought of again. An addict is either recovering, or not recovering. No being recovered, or kinda recovering. The same should go for your conditions. Remember, there really is no condition you could set that would be unreasonable. Unless you're keeping him there at gun point, he can walk out the front door at any moment if he likes. He is, after all, an adult. If he wants to remain there, he must follow the rules. And hopefully understands that those conditions are for HIS benefit, not just your own. I truly hope he realizes just how fortunate he is. He has a hell of a lot more than I have (or ever had). And I know people with less even than I have. He needs to realize that, and appreciate it. [/QUOTE]
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