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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 241029" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>If she's getting really insistent about wanting to meet bio-mom and is beginning to think you're the block, you need to tell her that it's bio-mom who is the aticknig point. You can do it without making it judgemental by saying, "She's not emotionally ready at the moment, she has our contact details and will be in touch when she feels she can do it."</p><p></p><p>It's better than "she doesn't want to talk to you" because it throws the problem back on bio-mom and whatever she is gonig through, and makes it clear that N is not the deterrent. There can be so many reasons for a woman who previously wanted contact, to want to keep achiuld at arm's length. I can't think of any of those reasons being due to "I don't like that child" but many that revolve around "I don't like myself and I need to believe my child is in a better place right now."</p><p></p><p>The main concern here is N and how she feels about herself.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 241029, member: 1991"] If she's getting really insistent about wanting to meet bio-mom and is beginning to think you're the block, you need to tell her that it's bio-mom who is the aticknig point. You can do it without making it judgemental by saying, "She's not emotionally ready at the moment, she has our contact details and will be in touch when she feels she can do it." It's better than "she doesn't want to talk to you" because it throws the problem back on bio-mom and whatever she is gonig through, and makes it clear that N is not the deterrent. There can be so many reasons for a woman who previously wanted contact, to want to keep achiuld at arm's length. I can't think of any of those reasons being due to "I don't like that child" but many that revolve around "I don't like myself and I need to believe my child is in a better place right now." The main concern here is N and how she feels about herself. Marg [/QUOTE]
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