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<blockquote data-quote="Bunny" data-source="post: 396122"><p>I have never had to put difficult child in a hospital, but I have to say that I have thought some of the very same thoughts that you are thinking. Sometimes I say to myself, "Okay. when is enough?" I have said to husband many times that I can't wait for difficult child to go away to college, and I say "go away" because I just can't imagine him going to college and living here at home. I think by that point I will need a break, and so will the rest of the family. I have also said to husband that once difficult child finishes college he can not come back here to live. If he is still behaving the way he is now, it just won't work and I will not have it. I do everything that I can to protect easy child from difficult child's rants and rages, but I can see that it's been very hard on him. He knows that his brother is very mean to everyone here in the house and he has said on more than on occasion that he wishes he could live with his cousins so he doesn't have to listen to difficult child screaming. It just about breaks my heart to hear that, because I think if I ever lose easy child I would be devestated.</p><p> </p><p>I think you will know when it will be time to save yourself and the other people in the family. But if you don't bring your difficult child home, where will he go? Who would raise him? It's very hard when he displays certain behaviors at home, but not in other places. I have told difficult child's teachers what he's like at home and they look at me like I have two heads and am from Mars. They don't see that side of him so they can not understand how truly diffucult it is to parent him. And when you are sitting there asking, or even begging, for help and the answer is that they don't see what you are describing you sort of feel like you are adrift out there somewhere. I have had that happen to me, too, and that was how I felt. Alone. Adrift. Left to figure it out for myself, but if I could do that I wouldn't have come asking for help, now would I?</p><p> </p><p>I don't have any answers for you. While I have never been in your shoes, I have felt some of the same things. It's hard because this is your child that you are talking about. The child that you are supposed to love unconditionally, but when he behaves in ways that are destructive to everyone around him that love is tested, sometimes daily. I have felt more guilt over the negative feelings that I have had for difficult child than I have over anything else in my life. It is very depressing because it's not really what we signed up for when we decided to have kids. But it is our life. </p><p> </p><p>Pam</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Bunny, post: 396122"] I have never had to put difficult child in a hospital, but I have to say that I have thought some of the very same thoughts that you are thinking. Sometimes I say to myself, "Okay. when is enough?" I have said to husband many times that I can't wait for difficult child to go away to college, and I say "go away" because I just can't imagine him going to college and living here at home. I think by that point I will need a break, and so will the rest of the family. I have also said to husband that once difficult child finishes college he can not come back here to live. If he is still behaving the way he is now, it just won't work and I will not have it. I do everything that I can to protect easy child from difficult child's rants and rages, but I can see that it's been very hard on him. He knows that his brother is very mean to everyone here in the house and he has said on more than on occasion that he wishes he could live with his cousins so he doesn't have to listen to difficult child screaming. It just about breaks my heart to hear that, because I think if I ever lose easy child I would be devestated. I think you will know when it will be time to save yourself and the other people in the family. But if you don't bring your difficult child home, where will he go? Who would raise him? It's very hard when he displays certain behaviors at home, but not in other places. I have told difficult child's teachers what he's like at home and they look at me like I have two heads and am from Mars. They don't see that side of him so they can not understand how truly diffucult it is to parent him. And when you are sitting there asking, or even begging, for help and the answer is that they don't see what you are describing you sort of feel like you are adrift out there somewhere. I have had that happen to me, too, and that was how I felt. Alone. Adrift. Left to figure it out for myself, but if I could do that I wouldn't have come asking for help, now would I? I don't have any answers for you. While I have never been in your shoes, I have felt some of the same things. It's hard because this is your child that you are talking about. The child that you are supposed to love unconditionally, but when he behaves in ways that are destructive to everyone around him that love is tested, sometimes daily. I have felt more guilt over the negative feelings that I have had for difficult child than I have over anything else in my life. It is very depressing because it's not really what we signed up for when we decided to have kids. But it is our life. Pam [/QUOTE]
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