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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 258547" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Ohhhhhh I loved it when I was threatened by the school resource officer. LOVED IT. </p><p> </p><p>My son told the school I burned all his clothes, threw away all his books and ALL his COMPLETED homework assignments, threw him out - but not before I punched him in the eye. Listen - I'm 5'81/2", 240 lbs and a former female boxer. If I hit you - you're going to have a black eye. period! So we're in the school office and I hear the officer say "We'll get to the bottom of this MOTHER PUNCHING AN INNOCENT CHILD IN THE FACE - THE NERVE." and as she rounded the corner Dude shrunk back in the hallway and this woman whom I towered over in heels looked up and said "YOURE his MOTHER?" I nodded and said "YUP....I'm the one being accused of punching him in they eye. Did I mention I used to box and body build?" At that point DF added - "Look I'm a man and I wouldn't take a swing at her." we saw people sorta chuckle and I said "SO are you going to arrest me?" her answer after glaring at Dude was an emphatic "NO." and she left. </p><p> </p><p>I asked my son in front of everyone "Where would you like to go?" and he replied in a dark tone "ANYWHERE BUT HERE." So I told them that after I dropped him off at the Children's Home (really did have a bed waiting for him) I was going to the county court house to file a petition of incorrigibility. And I did - but the caseworker jumped in and said they thought they could do better and placed him in a locked psychiatric hospital for criminally insane children. IT was an AWFUL place....but sent quite a message to our kid that he really wasn't mentally ill - he was behaviorally ill and largely responsible for his behaviors. Didn't change him overnight but you only had to mention going BACK to the psychiatric hospital and he could pull himself together fairly well. </p><p> </p><p>When people say "You need to talk to the judge" the verbage they should use is "I think you should go to Family court, talk to the clerk of courts, take your records, documents etc, and file a petition of incorrigibility." THATS what gets you in front of a judge - THAT's what tells the court you have had ENOUGH and the situation is totally out of control, THAT is what I would do again if I had to. THAT will hopefully get him placed somewhere he can deal with his anger, learn coping skills, maybe get a medications tweak if needed, and give you and your Mom a respite so that you can patch the holes, get therapy for yourself so you can learn how to deal with him in your home and learn all these cool "walk away" techniques. It's harder than it sounds because we're wired to argue. Hard wired in my case. And 220amp in my sons case. </p><p> </p><p>You should also look up the advocacy groups people here have given you - and ask for the school districts psychologist and make an appointment. They often have a plethera of resources that your local school counselor or cop does not. </p><p> </p><p>Hope you find some peace. My other bit of advice would be to lock up, box up all your valuables UNTIL he's done because they seem to strive to find the thing that means anything to us and use it against us. Peace and order can be restored to your home, but you have to also understand JUST by removing him - it solves only a part of the problem. It's hard to understand that we aren't able to talk to our own children in a language they understand - sometimes we need someone to help us sort it all out and bounce ideas off of from someone who DOES get how to level this all out - like a therapist. No shame in taking a class on Chinese if you're going to China and going to see Chinese people. It's not much different with difficult child's - we just aren't born speaking their language and vise-versa. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p><p>Star</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 258547, member: 4964"] Ohhhhhh I loved it when I was threatened by the school resource officer. LOVED IT. My son told the school I burned all his clothes, threw away all his books and ALL his COMPLETED homework assignments, threw him out - but not before I punched him in the eye. Listen - I'm 5'81/2", 240 lbs and a former female boxer. If I hit you - you're going to have a black eye. period! So we're in the school office and I hear the officer say "We'll get to the bottom of this MOTHER PUNCHING AN INNOCENT CHILD IN THE FACE - THE NERVE." and as she rounded the corner Dude shrunk back in the hallway and this woman whom I towered over in heels looked up and said "YOURE his MOTHER?" I nodded and said "YUP....I'm the one being accused of punching him in they eye. Did I mention I used to box and body build?" At that point DF added - "Look I'm a man and I wouldn't take a swing at her." we saw people sorta chuckle and I said "SO are you going to arrest me?" her answer after glaring at Dude was an emphatic "NO." and she left. I asked my son in front of everyone "Where would you like to go?" and he replied in a dark tone "ANYWHERE BUT HERE." So I told them that after I dropped him off at the Children's Home (really did have a bed waiting for him) I was going to the county court house to file a petition of incorrigibility. And I did - but the caseworker jumped in and said they thought they could do better and placed him in a locked psychiatric hospital for criminally insane children. IT was an AWFUL place....but sent quite a message to our kid that he really wasn't mentally ill - he was behaviorally ill and largely responsible for his behaviors. Didn't change him overnight but you only had to mention going BACK to the psychiatric hospital and he could pull himself together fairly well. When people say "You need to talk to the judge" the verbage they should use is "I think you should go to Family court, talk to the clerk of courts, take your records, documents etc, and file a petition of incorrigibility." THATS what gets you in front of a judge - THAT's what tells the court you have had ENOUGH and the situation is totally out of control, THAT is what I would do again if I had to. THAT will hopefully get him placed somewhere he can deal with his anger, learn coping skills, maybe get a medications tweak if needed, and give you and your Mom a respite so that you can patch the holes, get therapy for yourself so you can learn how to deal with him in your home and learn all these cool "walk away" techniques. It's harder than it sounds because we're wired to argue. Hard wired in my case. And 220amp in my sons case. You should also look up the advocacy groups people here have given you - and ask for the school districts psychologist and make an appointment. They often have a plethera of resources that your local school counselor or cop does not. Hope you find some peace. My other bit of advice would be to lock up, box up all your valuables UNTIL he's done because they seem to strive to find the thing that means anything to us and use it against us. Peace and order can be restored to your home, but you have to also understand JUST by removing him - it solves only a part of the problem. It's hard to understand that we aren't able to talk to our own children in a language they understand - sometimes we need someone to help us sort it all out and bounce ideas off of from someone who DOES get how to level this all out - like a therapist. No shame in taking a class on Chinese if you're going to China and going to see Chinese people. It's not much different with difficult child's - we just aren't born speaking their language and vise-versa. Hugs Star [/QUOTE]
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