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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 250186" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I read something somewhere on a good personal therapy you can try, if you feel strong enough.</p><p></p><p>You had a rotten childhood - I won't compare, but you are not alone in this. Whether our parents simply were too busy, or were far more actively malevolent, many people were so wounded in childhood that a part of the child they were has been left behind, stuck at that point.</p><p></p><p>If you are strong enough, try this - visualise yourself as the strong, independent adult you are now. You have grown through life, you ahve learned. But somewhere back in your childhoos id that little child. INI your mind, picture the scene. Picture the people, picture yourself as that child. But it's not you, it's that child. </p><p></p><p>Mentally walk yourself back up the road to the place where this happened. Walk in, walk up to that child, reach down and take te child by the hand, tell the child you are there to keep her safe and she need never be alone, afraid or hurt again. Then walk out with the child, take the child to yourself and remember, you are now the adult who is caring for the child you once were.</p><p></p><p>If you can handle this, it is very healing. It is an exercise you may feel you need to do a few times, whenever the hurt from the past threatens to distract you from who you are today.</p><p></p><p>But it is powerful. Go gently, be kind to yourself. </p><p></p><p>Also please note - there is nothing in this that says you need to say anything or do anything to anyone else present. They do not matter. All that matters in this is you, and the child you once were.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 250186, member: 1991"] I read something somewhere on a good personal therapy you can try, if you feel strong enough. You had a rotten childhood - I won't compare, but you are not alone in this. Whether our parents simply were too busy, or were far more actively malevolent, many people were so wounded in childhood that a part of the child they were has been left behind, stuck at that point. If you are strong enough, try this - visualise yourself as the strong, independent adult you are now. You have grown through life, you ahve learned. But somewhere back in your childhoos id that little child. INI your mind, picture the scene. Picture the people, picture yourself as that child. But it's not you, it's that child. Mentally walk yourself back up the road to the place where this happened. Walk in, walk up to that child, reach down and take te child by the hand, tell the child you are there to keep her safe and she need never be alone, afraid or hurt again. Then walk out with the child, take the child to yourself and remember, you are now the adult who is caring for the child you once were. If you can handle this, it is very healing. It is an exercise you may feel you need to do a few times, whenever the hurt from the past threatens to distract you from who you are today. But it is powerful. Go gently, be kind to yourself. Also please note - there is nothing in this that says you need to say anything or do anything to anyone else present. They do not matter. All that matters in this is you, and the child you once were. Marg [/QUOTE]
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