You need to communicate with-husband. I agree with-everyone else, he has no incentive to do anything.
You are a trooper. I feel your resentment.
I'd start changing things one by one. If you don't want the ponies and he does, but doesn't do anything about them, run an ad to sell them. He will hit the ceiling but so what? Then go on to the next item. Maybe use the $ from the ponies to buy a better vehicle, plus trade in one of the other vehicles. That should get his attention.
Gosh, you do a lot of work. Is it like that every day?
