I'm just so tired...

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by tiredmommy, Jun 3, 2009.

  1. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    of the fighting, the constant back talk and general level of meanness I get from Duckie. Her automatic response to me is negative for the last several weeks.

    It's just exhausting to deal with her.
  2. crazymama30

    crazymama30 Active Member

    Hugs. This is not an easy time of year. I think I remember her medications or something being off, could this be rebound because of that?

    Sometimes when my difficult child gets really negative that way I send him to his room for a few minutes, and then when he comes out if he is the same way back he goes. Sometimes it takes a while, but for him it usually works. I use that a lot for arguing. I swear that kid would argue that the sky was yellow.

    It is exhausting. Do you have some plans for her during the summer so you will get some time to yourself?
  3. house of cards

    house of cards New Member

    I so hear you.
  4. bby31288

    bby31288 Active Member

    I go thru that all the time. Everything with difficult child is negative, any response I give. I have learned to detach and not offer an opinion. I know its hard, but its like she wants to drag me into an argument. So I say, something like, gee, I'm sorry your feeling ....(fill in the blank), or something like, you're a smart girl, you will figure it out. That way I acknowledge her but do not let her bait me.
  5. gcvmom

    gcvmom Here we go again!

    Do you think she's feeling okay, healthwise?

    Sorry she's being such a pill.
  6. Fran

    Fran Former desparate mom

    It is exhausting isn't it?
    I ask difficult child to speak to me as I speak to him. It ususally gets some level of awarenes. If particularly cranky I ask what he would do if he were the parent and I did what they did. . Reverse role playing was and is a good instructional game.
    Doesn't make it any easier for you but it gives you a tool.
  7. totoro

    totoro Mom? What's a GFG?

    I just sent both girls to another room, in a nice way, for a 10 minute break. LOL

    I so know the feeling.
    I am sorry. I think the board is feeling a lot of this, whether it is medications, the season, heat... whatever!
    A lot of us are struggling.

    It is PITA'VILLE out there! LOL

  8. Lothlorien

    Lothlorien Active Member Staff Member

    Sorry. I don't have any suggestions, other than seeing if someone could give you a break for a few hours, here and there.
  9. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    Thanks everyone. I do get breaks... often. She's been sick, yes, but I just get so tired of her taking out everything on me. She just keeps heaping it on top of me. Duckie will most likely continue swim & gymnastics over the summer so she will still have a sense of routine.
  10. jannie

    jannie trying to survive....

    I hear you loud and clear. It is unreal to listen to my own difficult child as well as many other difficult child speak to me and/or their parents. Hang in there--

    What frustrates the heck out of me is that the teachers and my children's friends parents typically report such positive interactions with my kids.

    why do they do this to us.

    I hope Duckie is feeling better soon--and I think it's great for you to keep the swimming and gymnastic going; routine works best for my kids
  11. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Understanding gentle hugs.
  12. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    I know.
  13. graceupongrace

    graceupongrace New Member

    The end of the school year always seems to magnify everything, doesn't it?

    totoro, PITAville is right! LOL! I spend time there every day, unfortunately.
  14. recovering doormat

    recovering doormat Lapsed CDer

    I hear you about the constant nastiness. I think this is why I have been dragging my feet about moving my easy child back to my house after a long respite with her dad. Add to that the hormonal factor of an almost-teen and it's no wonder I grind my teeth in my sleep and clench my jaw.

    Gentle hugs.
  15. flutterby

    flutterby Fly away!

    I know. This is what I'm talking about when I talk about difficult child "hoovering" the life out of me. It makes me tired. Literally and figuratively.
  16. LittleDudesMom

    LittleDudesMom Well-Known Member Staff Member

    You are speaking the speak of the difficult child parent!

    Tough time of the year.


  17. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    Thanks everyone. She came home from school yesterday and gave me a big hug. She said she's a kid so she knows what it's like to hear "no" all the time. She said she understood why it makes me upset and she would try not to be so negative... though she pointed out that she's sure she couldn't be agreeable all the time. :winks: